Post # 1
after I got engaged at the beginning of May I seen a dress I liked online so I bookmarked the page and intended on trying on said dress a little further down the line. Last week I went to show a friend the dress online via the bookmark, when I did it took me to the salon site and stated that the dress had been discontinued- there was no picture of the dress or any information so I called the store the following day and they confirmed that the dress had been discontinued but, there was a few floating around various stores on the sale rack so I was glad to hear the dress was several hundered dollars off but, a bit bummed that the dress had been discontinued since I really hadn’t planned on making a dress purchase so soon. I went last Sunday to the store and tried on the dress in question, it was the first wedding dress I have ever tried on, I was really pleased with how it looked- I tried on two other dresses and ended up torn between two…..one of them being the discontinued dress. My friend who I took to the store with me cried when I put on the discontinued dress and the sales associates told me the dress looked wonderful etc… I still couldn’t decide between the two so I went home and slept on it then the next day decided to purchase the discontinued dress.
I feel silly saying this but, this whole week I’ve been feeling wedding dress buyers remorse- not because of the cost, the dress was not that expensive. I just keep thinking that there could be another dress out there that looks better on me. I see dresses online that I like much more and wish I hadn’t purchased this one……I feel rather stupid to be honest. The only people I have told is my Fiance and you guys- he is so sweet and supportive and has said that I should try on other dresses and see what I find/feel and if I find one I like more then to go ahead and sell the discontinued dress.
Another problem in regards to this dress is that it has a chapel train (I think thats right) and I really wasn’t planning on having a dress with a long(ish) train due to the location we are to be married…..it is a canyon type place (search Old Mans Cave Ohio) and the ground is dirty, the train is sheath- I know, I know….ridiculous of me to buy this and be married in a location like this. This is my own fault, I should never have given in to the pressure of myself or that of the sales folk- so unlike me! In total I tried on three dresses, I feel I made a hasty decision. The store states no refunds. I have this little niggling feeling in my head that I should have tried on more than three dresses. It’s almost like I have to set my mind at ease and possibly I won’t find a dress I like more than this one. Ha, ha- I feel so ridiculous Part of me feels like I also missed out the whole dress trying expereince……through no fault but my own of course.
Sorry for such a lengthy post and thanks for reading. Any advice, words of wisdom? Btw– that is not me in the picture and I also attached a picture of a dress I really love.[attachment=274534,32220]
Post # 3
Aww, I think that no matter how many dresses you try on or how long you wait to make your decision, we all second guess our dress!! I know that I have many times! My best advice would be to try it on again (the sample or at a different store) to see if you still love it. If not, then you could always look for another dress. Don’t feel bad about this at all!! It happens to all of us!
Post # 4
I would agree. Don’t hesitate to try on other dresses, and this time when you go into a dress shop, if you feel like your being pressured by a salesperson you can always say "well I already have one dress, I just wanted to try on others to be sure I made the right choice" and of course, that’s entirely the truth! You many find a dress you like better, or you may discover that the dress you bought is growing on you and was the right choice after all.
Also, you might ask if the dress shop where you bought the dress would consider giving you store credit if you found another dress in their shop that you liked better.
Best of Luck 🙂
Post # 5
I love the dress and think it’s very romantic for the canyon. you could always use a brooch to put the dress up a bit more. i agree with everyone else about asking the dress shop if you can exchange the dress for another.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I think that dress is beautiful! I agree with the other posters, you can still go to other stores and try on more dresses! If you find something you absolutely LOVE and cannot live without, then you can get it and sell your other dress…Or it may just reinforce that this dress actually was the one…Go try on more!!
Post # 7
((HUGS)) I think you look beautiful in that dress. If you are concerned about the length of the train, you could potentially have a seamstress shorten it or even wear it bustled for the ceremony. Either way, don’t be too hard on yourself– what’s done is done. Keep looking if that helps. You can always try to sell the dress or donate it for a tax credit. Best of luck!
Post # 8
Thnaks Girls for the support and words of wisdom, all very much appreciated. I have decided to try more dresses on and if I find one I like much more I will simply sell the other one.
Post # 9
I think that dress is gorgeous, but you should definitely try on more to be sure! In case the train is really what you are worried about, how about bustling it during the ceremony or simply having the train removed?
Post # 10
Having the train removed is a good idea and if I decide to go with the dress I already have I will consider that option for sure. Thanks so much.
Post # 11
Is the second attachment a Claire Pettibone? Both gowns are beautiful. I changed my mind on my first dress. Though I had not ordered it specially for my height, I was able to sell it on ebay without losing too much money. My second dress is a Claire Pettibone sample, so I was able to get it for 50% off. I rationalize the cost of the loss on the first dress by knowing that my dream dress (second dress) was on sale, so I am still under budget compared to buying it new! I am getting married outside too, in the mountains in Colorado, and felt that my second dress fit the setting much better. My fiance is like yours–he just wants me to feel perfect in the dress I choose and doesn’t want me to feel bad about it. Go with your instinct–it will all work out.
Post # 12
I think the dress is beautiful! It’s similiar to the one I got (I love the lace dresses). If it helps, I’m wearing a lace dress with a small train like that to an outdoor wedding, so I think it should be okay. But it’s really does depend on what you feel comfortable in. You’ll be beautiful (and happy) no matter what!
P.S. That’s neat that you’re getting married at Old Man’s cave. We’re going there for our honeymoon in a couple weeks and I’m so excited. I haven’t been there yet but I’ve seen pictures and it looks beautiful! That’ll be a beautiful place for a wedding.