(Closed) Wedding dress came in…is this normal?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
8422 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@JMJ102411:  Look on your paper work when you ordered the dress it should have the size written there….if it was the stores mistake they should have to pay for the alterations!

Oh and to answer your question…..is this normal…No! Most bridal shops store dress. I find that odd that they won’t store it for you….Did they say why?

Post # 4
760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@JMJ102411:  Are they doing the alterations for you? If not, then no, it’s not wierd for them to give you the gown to take home.  If yes, then it is a little odd, but not a big deal.  They’d likely just tell you to bring the dress back when its time for alterations.

By the way, depending on your body shape, sometimes they have to order the dress a few sizes up in order for it to properly fit a certain body part (hips, back, whatever). 

My dress was about 2 sizes too big and after alterations, fit me perfectly and I loved how it looked.  It didn’t not alter the look or shape of the dress (other than to fit it to my body properly).

As a pp said, check the size you ordered and compare with what you got just to ensure the store didn’t make an error.

Post # 5
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had to sign off on the size they ordered so no, not normal. Also, I had to take my dress which was fine by me. I’ve heard too many horror stories about leaving your dress at the place!

Post # 7
716 posts
Busy bee

They usually order the size for the largest body measurement and then take other parts it to alter it so who knows.  a good alterations team can definitely do the necessary and preserve the shape and cut of the dress.


a bee once posted about how there was a fire at the bridal store holding her dress.  it’s not always a good thing.

Post # 8
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

No, that is not normal! Did you discuss with them the size it should be ordered in at the time of ordering? If they measured you they should have ordered it in your current size unless something else was agreed.

My shop stored my dress til 4 days before the wedding. I guess this varies between stores, so it would have been good to agree it before ordering.

Post # 9
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 1997

I’ve heard that bridal stores order things too big, so they can charge a fortune to make them fit.  My sister-in-law tried on her a dress in her regular size (6) and the sales girl told that it was too small.  She even pretended that she couldn’t get it zipped.  My other sister-in-law stepped into the dressing room and zipped the dress right up – fit like a glove with no alterations needed!

Post # 10
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My dress is huge!  The reason why they ordered it so big is because my largest measurement was too big for the smaller size.  They order the dress to fit your largest measurement as someone mentioned.  The dress actually falls right off of me!  They are taking about two inches off each side almost all the way down.   However, at my place the alterations are included in the price, therefore they didn’t do it as a motivation to charge me more as someone mentioned.

Post # 11
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@JMJ102411:  Unfortunatly it was probably on purpose. I have never been in a bridal salon for brides dress (including mine) or Bridesmaid or Best Man and the sales ppl have ALWAYS tried to order/or just order it too big so they make money on alterations…

My gf was a size 10, we ordered her dress and the lady put a 14…. we got to the car and I said _____ are you really confortable ordering that big when it fit you like a glove…and yoru planning on getting in better shape? She went back and got them to change it, they tried to convince her not to, but she insisted. Dress came in, fit like a glove.

My salon… I WAS a 10 and they fit me perfect… she tried to get me to order a 12…and I was like actually Im going to get an 8 thanks… lol I used to be a personal trainer so I’ll be fine. sure enough, fit like a glove when I went in for hemming.

If the dresses in the store you try on at the size you are do fit, dont let them push you into getting bigger (since its already done) check the order and if it was on purpose (wrong size) tell them they need to pay for it

Post # 13
3697 posts
Sugar bee

I think they are trying to pad their profit by forcing you to get extensive alterations.

No matter what happens with the attempt to exchange the 10 for an 8, I would say look for an independent seamstress to do your alterations. Indie seamstresses depend on their skills to make a living, so you can be confident that they are competent at what they do. Bridal shops pretty much *have* to have *someone* on staff to do alterations, and they sometimes get desperate and hire people whose skills are more limited. Not always, but it happens. Also, the bridal shops typically charge more but pay their seamstresses less, while indie people can usually give you a better deal because they get the money directly.

If you don’t know of any independent seamstresses, talk to your female friends, your female relatives, your female relatives’ female friends, your female friends’ female relatives, etc. – anyone who’s been married/involved in a wedding in your area will be able to give you some type of recommendation. Also check online or just use the yellow pages (remember those? 😉

Post # 14
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh. This does sound like they’re trying to make $$$ off alterations. My salon doesn’t do alterations at all, and my dress was ordered according to my largest measurement, and fits me perfectly (except for needing a hem). They also store my dress in a firesafe until I need it for alterations (and will store it until the wedding day/steam it for me), so I find it very weird that they won’t keep it for you.

Post # 15
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

No not normal – I would check your copy of the order form and receipt.


Also, I think its strange they don’t store dresses. My bridal salon isn’t even doing the alterations, but they will keep it for me until May when I go to my fittings and then I can bring it back to them to steam and press for free!

Post # 16
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My salon charges for alterations but the girls are really open about letting you see where you come in on the designers’ charts and letting you decide with them.

However, my friend is one of my bridesmaids and is super skinny. She fit in the sample bridesmaid dress which was a 4! She and her husband are trying to have a baby. When she got measured it was the end of November, they weren’t going to start trying until January, and my wedding is May 18.

Her sister is similarly sized and didn’t pop until 7 months. The dresses are pretty flowy too. They wanted to order her a 12! She asked me what I thought, I told her NO WAY! That dress would have been crazy big even if she got pregnant right away. Plus, if need be, we can add a panel without anyone knowing since it is flowy and layered.

They were fine with the change and I know it’s really unpredictable how big a pregnant bridesmaid will be so I don’t think they were trying to make extra money off us or anything, but personally, I think ordering my tiny friend a 12 would have been overkill.

My shop is also keeping my dress until the wedding.

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