(Closed) Wedding Dress Conundrum

posted 4 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Is it weird to wear the dress?

    Yes

    No

    It really doesn’t matter, stop overthinking

  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    It’s not right or wrong but your feelings about the dress (logical or not) matter more than anyone else’s. If it makes you uncomfortable to wear it then I don’t think you should.

    Post # 3
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    4766 posts
    Honey bee

    I am of the mindframe that it is just cloth and thread.  There are no magical powers ascribed to it.  Before it got to you, it was a bolt of fabric sitting in a warehouse likely sewn together by someone making a just above minimum wage.  I don’t see much point in spending more money for a new dress you may not like as much unless you really enjoy throwing money away and have some spare cash burning a hole in your pocket.

     If you love it, wear it. 

     If you don’t still love it, then get a new one.

    It really is not that much more complicated than that.

    Post # 6
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    607 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s totally up to you and how the dress makes you feel. Do you bad memories attached to the dress or do you just love it and feel special when you wear it? You could possibly sell it and use the money to buy another one. It’s all about how it makes you feel 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee

    I think your fiancé being ok with it was the biggest obstacle. And I do want to say it speaks a lot about his character that he’s so cool with it. He’s obviously very secure with himself and your relationship. I would wear it and save the dress money for bigger and better things!

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I think, when you get engaged, you should go try on dresses.  Try on different dresses in bridal shops, and try on your dress.  You should be able to tell how you feel by doing this.  You might feel like no other dresses compare to the one you picked.  Or, you might love the feeling of a new dress for a new relationship.  If you decide you don’t want to wear the dress you have, sell it.  Then use the money, and whatever else you are able to save, to get a new one.  If you decide your dress is the one, you will probably feel more confident in that decision knowing you shopped around and still love your dress.

    I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer here.  Just follow your feelings.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2020 - New York, New York

    If you feel weird about it, then I would suggest selling the old dress and getting a new one. You deserve to feel beautiful on your wedding day, not haunted by your past relationship. However, since your Fiance is fine with it and you would be saving money, you definitely don’t have to get a new dress if you can move past its history. 

    The dress bothered you enough for you to post this question and seek our opinions, so I think you should wear a new dress. It seems like the practical side of the issue is affecting your decision (e.g. saving money). However, if it bothers you, it bothers you! Make sure you give equal weight to your feelings, because they matter just as much as the practical stuff. You don’t want to have any regrets about wearing that dress, because it’ll appear in every photo you’re in! 

    Post # 12
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

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    ashleyroseb :  If you’re feeling superstitious about it, why not carry a small evil eye as your something blue? (am serious!)

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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    ashleyroseb :  I defintely think just hold on to the dress. Wait till you are engaged and try on other things. It’s amazing how much styles change, and you might surprise yourself in a few years with how much you like something else. 

    Or, not.

    If you still find that dress to be the one you love the most, consider doing some kind of ritual to clear the mental and emotional energy you have attached to it. Some people like sage, other incense, maybe just take it out of the bag and outside to let the fresh air run through it and carry away any old associations.

    Ultimately, if you feel weird about it, it might end up being a disappointment to wear it, no matter how much you love it. Since it isn’t something you have to decide right now, I’d just hold on and see how you feel when the time comes

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