Post # 1
I am not close with my mother AT ALL. In fact, I can’t stand being in the same room with her. Which is a long story in itself. So my problem is this, I love love love my father and we are very close. He is paying for my wedding. (my parents are divorced) My mom refuses to acknowledge the fact that I really don’t want anything to do with her, even though I have spelled it out for her time and time again. Lets just say she is one of the worst mom’s ever. Thus the reason we are not close and I can’t stand her. So back to my problem. I want to bring my dad dress shopping with me, and not my mom. My mom, of course, put me on the spot and sent me an email asking to come dress shopping with me. I’m so mad!!! She is the last person in the world I want to bring, she will ruin the experience for me and I’ll be grumpy all day. But when I tell her I don’t want her there, she will give me a guilt trip for the rest of my life. What do I do??
Post # 3
Welcome to the bee 🙂
I would take your father dress shopping and not your mom. Maybe, if you feel up to it, you could let your mom go with you to one of your fittings. I wouldn’t even tell her you are going to find a gown with your father, until after you have found your gown.
Post # 4
I’m not sure how I should respond to her email. If I don’t write back, she’ll txt me. If I don’t txt her, she’ll call me!!!
Post # 5
If you’re really not close to your mom at all, and don’t have a much of a relationship with her or care anymore, just tell her straight up you’re already planning to go with your dad, and dont feel guilty about the decision. It seems thats she hasnt been much of a mother to you, let her try to say anything she wants. Or if you want to try to keep the peace and a better relationship, maybe you can make an appointment to go with her after you go with your dad and let your frist real dress shopping experience be with him.
Post # 6
thanks so much for the advice! You wrote exactly what I was thinking in my head, but I just needed to hear it from someone else.