Post # 1
So I know I’m supposed to be gushing over wedding dresses and trying to find the “perfect” dress that I’ll love and never want to get out of, but… I don’t believe there is such a dress for me. I’ve never been attached to my clothes, and I don’t think I will find something like that… nor do I really want to. Even if I’m totally in love with my dress, I get to wear it once and keep it forever (possibly if I choose to buy it) and then what? Look at it through a bag that shouldn’t be opened because it’s vaccuum sealed? To me, I think one good looking dress is the same as the next. If it’s nice on me and fits properly, I’m set. But all my bridesmaids and all my friends are like “No! You have to try on EVERY dress! You need to find THE ONE!!” Is my reluctance to go dress shopping normal? Or am I just weird? I feel like a guy when I go dress shopping. Like one of those who goes in, picks something that looks OK and suits the purpose, buys it, and is out within 10 minutes. Is it bad that that’s how I wish I could pick my wedding dress? It’s so frustrating when they keep telling me to keep looking because a dress that I’m eyeing “might not look good on me” and I have to go try it. Yes, I realize that, but I’m pretty set on a certain style of dress and I’m certain those styles will generally look good on me. I don’t need to try on 50 different dresses. I need to try on maybe 10 and pick the one that looks best!
Post # 3
Nah, just try to find something that you like that looks good on you. My dress shopping was very practical. I wanted to go, but it was discouraging, too! I don’t wear “trendy” stuff very well. I think I only tried on like, 15 dresses…I liked mine, bought it, it was affordable, and slowly grew to love it more b/c it was my wedding dress! if you kmow what you like, roll with it. Do try on a few outside the box tho
Post # 4
I understand what you’re saying! Finding “the one” for you might just mean something flattering to your figure and appropriate for the venue. Also, the more dresses you try on, the more you might appreciate finding ‘the one’ at the end of the day so it might be a little more emotional for you at that point.
Post # 5
That’s how I was! In and out. There were no tears, no gushes, no screams, no dramatics at all. Just liked it, got it, went to lunch. I think there’s this mass hysteria about weddings that I’m not entirely sold on. I guess I’m more of a realist in that I don’t expect to have the most lavish wedding, with the fairtale vibe. Just wanna have fun and look pretty. But I’m not obsessed with it all. I think you’ve got the right idea. You are avoiding more stress by avoiding the hysteria lol. Just go with it :o)
Post # 6
Thats exactly how I was too. This is the conversation I had with my sister
Me: “So, do you like it?”
Sis: “Yep, do you?”
Me: “Yeah, it’s really nice.”
Sis: “Well are you going to get it?”
Me: “Yeah, I think so.”
The End. But I will say that now that I have it I love it more than I thought I would love a dress.
I would definitely second everyone saying find something that you like, that compliments your figure, and fits your venue. Good luck!
Post # 7
My cousin’s the one really pushing me on this. She had her wedding last summer and she was totally against the dress she ended up picking just by the look of it. She tried it on reluctantly and fell in love. When they called to tell her it came in, she was squealing with joy. I really doubt I could ever be like that. I mean… seriously. It’s just a dress! An expensive one, yes; a really pretty one, yes. But still just a dress.
Post # 8
At the end of the day, it’s your dress so it should be what you want and no, you don’t have to get caught up in finding “the one.” I was exactly the same way when I started thinking about a wedding dress and I was actually going to have my dress made by a seamstress based on a picture of a very mad men-esque 50s style party dress. That way I would avoid the shopping altogether. If you know what kind of dress looks good on you, then that might be an option and it wasn’t going to be crazy expensive.
Even though I loved the idea, I did in the end go wedding dress shopping and ended up buying instead, so I do think you should at least try on a few – who knows, you may find the one! but do what feels right for you.
Post # 9
You’re fine. For a while I was second-guessing my dress because I didn’t experience any of the craziness of finding “the one.” I tried on a bunch of dresses, hated them all. Tried on mine, liked it. Tried on some more, still liked that other one. Oh, I can take the floor/sample and not have to order and all of that nonsense? We’ll take it.
I was worried that I didn’t loveeee my dress “enough” but every time I point out a dress I like, it looks similar to mine, so I think I’m all set ;o)
Post # 10
Thanks everyone. That makes me feel a lot better.
@hotchildinthecity – That’s exactly how I feel. All the dresses I look at are similar. I’ve tried on similar ones on and I like it (a-line, satiny, . It fits and looks nice. But I think all the others that are similar will give the same feeling. I hope “like” is enough.
Post # 11
Wow, that was my experience exactly. I went to several stores, tried things on, and almost hated the process. I started looking at dresses that weren’t wedding dresses, and some that weren’t white too. The very last dress I tried on was something unusual that I fell in love with (not gushing, tears … but something I actually looked foward to wearing).
I can honestly say that I was really glad I bought the dress and wore it for my wedding. Now if I can only figure out what to do with it!
Post # 12
They had a bride that felt this way on SYTTD! She said she’d rather be out walking her dog than dress shopping. She came around and even got a little gushy over the dress but was very relieved when it was done.
Post # 13
Why noy try shopping on line. I get my dress on Topbridal. The dress is so beautiful. I fall in love with it!!! You may have a try, and get the dress that makes you perfect!!!
Post # 14
You said it best when you said I’ve never been attached to my clothes. One thing I learned from my wedding was, if you feel really strongly about something, even if that feeling is strongly NOT feeling something about a dress or whatever, then that’s okay because it’s YOUR wedding day.
Think of it this way, not being cookie cutter bride to be gives you options. You mentioned buying or not buying a dress. This means you could rent a dress. It may be less expensive and plus you won’t have your dress hanging in your closet, staring back at you with a dirty bottom and drink stains on it saying “hey what are you going to do with me now?” like me.
Stick with what feels right for you. If you have already tried dresses on, and you feel good in one particular dress or style, then choose one and buy it. You don’t have to have a OH WOW OH MY GOD moment, that’s just not how you are with clothes and that PERFECTLY FINE. Plus once you buy it, it’s just one more thing to cross off your list, and believe you me the list feels much bigger than any blogger or book can tell you.
I found my dress online 2 years before I even started dating my husband and thought to myself “I love that dress but will never spend $5000 on it.” (I’m a bit of a cheapskate). A few months before we got engaged I was browsing ebay and found the dress, brand new for $450 with shipping so I ordered it. Everyone yelled at me saying you’re not even engaged, what are you doing, bad luck blah blah stupid blah. It came in the mail and it was perfect, minus the length and my ten pounds.
The point of my story is, no one knows you better than yourself and everyone has an opinion. Go with what feels right to you and tell everyone to (insert your own phrase here but for the sake of the board and in the spirit of weddingness I’ll say smash cake in their own faces.)
Just remember when things get too hectic and everyone’s opinion is flying around, find some quiet place and remember that you are the one who knows what you want in your heart of hearts.
Wow, I’m quite impressed with my inspirational post. Everyone print this out and frame it. JK. I’m a sarcastic rascal.