- 4 years ago
Hello all, I am a long term lurker, first time poster here. I just wanted to get stuff off my chest, because I am feeling awful at the moment.
I ordered my dress in November 13 – it’s a Phoenix B663 I believe…tea length, lace etc. Since then I have had serious wobbles, and feeling uneasy about the choice.
I saw my dress again yesterday along with my mother (who paid) and my two siblings. My heart sank…it was way too big, and looked like a sack of potatoes on me. The dress had been quickly steamed, and dragged across the dirty floor in the process and I was pulling dust off the bottom, whilst noticing the heavy lace had quite a few pulls in it. The shop assistant kept repeating that the dress would be fitted in time for my wedding, and not to worry. I just made me feel so sad, and did not help with the wobbles :(.
I could tell my mother didn’t like it either…she was very quiet through it and told me the sample dress had looked much better (which was 3 sizes too big!). I also have ordered a faux fur cape to wear in our very cold church. The cape looked too big on me, and was clumsy to put on. My mother now informs me I should only wear this cape outside (the service and photos will be taken in this very cold church…I am not kidding, it is enough to turn your fingers blue!), and it sends my veil flying in the air when I try to put it back on after taking it off.
my mother and sisters then proceeded to spend the entire time searching for a wedding dress for my sister (who hasn’t set a date). My mother’s response to this was ‘why not, we might as well whilst we are here’ – am I being unreasonable Getting upset over this? Not to mention I discovered my sister wants a style I originally set out to buy.
I don’t know what to do, I have spent all day trying not to cry. I felt ugly in my dress – like a child playing dress up. My second choice was the Maggie Sottoro Emma in gold, and am now wishing I had gone and purchased this instead. But I cannot spare any more money, and my mother will hate me for rejecting the dress she helped choose.
I am sorry for the long post, I just feel terrible. 🙁 🙁 Am I being silly?