Wedding dress drama

posted 2 weeks ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Do they know the date of your wedding? 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

So when are they saying your dress is going to be in? Like what is the date they gave you this time? Just tell them you can not keep reshedualing your appt. with your alterations person. That she is getting upset and feels like she won’t have enough time. I know it’s not good to lie but at this point the dress maker isn’t really considering your feelings. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

Why would you be getting your money back and still getting the dress? What date are they giving you now? With only 7 weeks left I’d be finding a back up dress probably.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I’m confused. You got your money back for the dress, but the designer is still giving you a dress?

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I am so sorry. Maybe come up with a Plan B? Like, see what options there might be for off the rack? I know it is not the dress you ordered but I feel your panic. 

bee66 :  

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

She got her money back from the original order and then reordered it from the designer.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Hi Bee, how stressful and upsetting. I hope they get back to you this time. If they do not, call them back tomorrow (you or your partner) and then if you still do not hear back then call them again the next day. You should be a constant, firm but polite irritation at this point. Just not responding to customers is unacceptable and I bet there are others in your same position. They might be overwhelmed, in which case, the people who check in regularly and are kind but firm will get their dresses and/or rheir money back sooner.

Then, I’d check with the seamstress and find out what the absolute latest you could get your alterations done. I’d also start asking the designer about refunding your money and be looking into other dresses in case this one doesn’t come through.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Not sure if I’m going to be a lot of help, but I would cancel my order entirely, get my money back again, and go shopping at an entirely new store with an entirely new designer. Go a little cheaper if you can and use the rest of the money for rush shipping. You’ll have the dress soon, giving your tailor plenty of time to work on the dress. 

Another layer: if you are concerned about the tailor working too hard, too fast, I would talk to the ladies at the new boutique about aspects of a dress that make life easier for a tailor (ie, structured, lined gowns rather than chiffon beachy frilly unlined ones). Get a dress relatively-easy to tailor and call it a day. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee

If you have to access it there is a site for preloved gowns called The Last Minute Bride

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Oh man. I’d be searching for another dress at this point and ask for a refund. Sorry, bee. It just seems they’re leaving it too late for alterations. 

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