(Closed) Wedding Dress Drama

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think you look beautiful!  And I think your mom is being selfish.  This is your wedding, she’s your mom and you obviously love her but she needs to support you and be happy for you right now. 

Post # 4
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11355 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

When I first became engaged, my mother lived in a different state and could not travel due to her having fallen and broken a bone, so she was not able to come with me when I selected my gown.  When she saw it on me months later when she and my dad were visiting, I could tell that she did not like my dress.  I was disappointed and really didn’t know what to do, since I obviously had no time to order another gown.

I asked her what her concerns were, and she told me, so I addressed her primary issue (that the skirt was too full) by having the salon remove the top later of crinoline.  She felt better after I did that.

Do you know what your mother dislikes about your dress (which is beautiful, by the way.)

Post # 5
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434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You look amazing! And I really like that dress!! My mom was really critical when I was picking out dresses and she’s the reason I didn’t get this one I loved from DB. So when I picked out the actual dress (custom made so I hadn’t really “tried it on”) I brought a close friend who is also a certified Wedding planner and only after that did I show it to my mom.

Post # 7
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106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@AmandaCaputo:  I love your dress! Do you think your mum might be expressing something else, for example the fact she wasn’t with you (and really it wouldn’t have mattered what dress you picked she would still say she didn’t like it because she wasn’t there when you picked it?). I think weddings are a really emotional time for everyone, and sometimes mums don’t express this in the best way and pick on something. You will look beautiful on your wedding day. I think it could help to have a coffee with your mum and tell her that it was important to you that she like your dress and see what she says.

Post # 8
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think you look beautiful!

Not every bride has that experience with their mom. I didn’t either and I see it not happen pretty often on Say Yes to the Dress.

Post # 9
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m a stylist and I love it (although one tip: a wide belt would be even more flattering and make it just a hint more modern – think “modern vintage” instead of just “traditional”). Don’t let your mother change your mind. And, if you can, explain to her that you love it and that it makes you feel exactly the way you want to on your wedding day. If she can’t get on board it’s on her. Good luck!

 

Post # 11
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2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@AmandaCaputo:  I love your dress! It’s not my style, but I think you look great!  Maybe your mom can help you pick out other accessories? For example, if you decide to add a thicker belt or if you haven’t chosen all of your jewelry yet…. But I really wouldn’t regret this dress choice because you look fantastic! I love the sleeves 🙂 So elegant!

Post # 12
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174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It’s so regal and elegant! Once your mother sees you the day of your wedding she will forget that she didnt like it. She will just see how happy and beautiful you look!! And you will be happy with the choice you made, and not with what people wanted you to pick. I found my dress alone on online…I wanted the choice to me only mine. My family was not too pleased but at the end of the day…its my dream dress and my wedding. You should feel the same. J

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