Post # 1
It took me all of two hours to find my gown. I had my heart set on a lace A-line gown with sleeves a la Princess Kate. To my surprise, I fell in love with a strapless, crumbcatcher neckline tafetta dress with a train. Literally everything I said I didn’t want is in my dress and yet I cried when I saw myself in it so I knew it was the one.
However, I find my dress extremely uncomfortable and I’m a bit worried about the eight plus hours I’ll have to be wearing it. I’ve had multiple operations (open heart, stomach) and the bones on the dress are poking into a lot of my scars. Is it possible for some of these bones to be removed or will the dress collapse without them? I’m so scared I will have trouble breathing on our wedding day!! However, getting another dress is out of the question. I bought this one, paid in full (with the sash and taxes it only came to $586!!!!) and I am absolutely in love with it. Every other dress I tried on was just as uncomfortable anyway, if not more so, than the one I picked. The only comfortable one was $2,600 and I refuse to pay that much for something I will wear once.
Do I just need to suck it up? I probably will have so much adrenaline in my system the day of, none of this may be an issue.
Post # 3
@childofthe1980s: Oh no, sad! Are there ways that you can make the dress a little more comfortable in alterations? Do you have photos of your dress?
Post # 4
Is it possible to wear something underneath the dress to make it more comfortable? Something like spanx, just to put a layer between your skin and the boning?
Post # 5
Oh my goodness. Alterations will be able to help you make it comfortable! They can either remove or move the boning, change the boning material to make it more comfortable or maybe even add a layer underneath to add padding. The more changes you make the more money it will cost though. Another option might be to wrap your scar areas in bandages so they are protected?
Post # 6
@gingernutjo: considering I only paid $586, I think I can afford some good alterations. As long as taking the bones out doesn’t alter the shape. My normal everyday dress is pretty bohemian and half the time I don’t even wear a bra (nothing shows though…thank goodness for small boobs!) So wearing something tight is completely different from my usual style and comfort!
Post # 7
if the boning is hurting you, it sounds like it’s really tight so taking the boning out altogether won’t hurt the shape too much. another option would be to shorten the boning – usually if you feel like you’re being poked, the boning is too long. make sure whoever does it rounds off the ends rather than cutting it straight, and maybe wraps a little bit of padding around the end, if it won’t hurt the silhouette too much. you could also ask your alterations person about replacing it with a different kind of boning – some are more flexible than others.