Wedding Dress for someone who hates wedding dresses?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
2706 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Check out ModCloth for gorgeous dresses which are bridal without screaming WEDDING.  Plus they’re cheaper!

Post # 17
48 posts

You can do something other than “traditional white” for a wedding gown. Dita von Teese wore a purple gown to her wedding and it was gorgeous! I saw an ad for a red lace gown in Brides magazine and I was like :O It was GORGEOUS.

There was a bride on here that was getting separates, she was going to wear this cool leather top with a flowy white skirt which looked cool.

I just saw this gown online today and I fell in love. (it also can have straps) It’s got a little glam and has a little va-va-voom with it. This would be gorgeous, or something in a rich deep color!  But there’s no reason why you can’t wear a black dress either! You’re the bride, it’s your choice!

Also, you can still be you with this, you don’t have to wear something with frill and lace and pearls if that’s not you. There are so many amazing accessories you can incorporate as well. Something like this 

I have seen photos on here, and on instagram or other wedding sites where brides wear leather jackets, have dip-dyed gowns, wear black and white gowns, and do what they want. 

The point is to feel good on your wedding day. If that means wearing a white gown with a huge train and all the lace, great! If it means wearing something else, still great!

I would also recommend Modcloth, Bhldn (check out their sales), and just look at department stores’ dresses. I would also look at Leanne Marshall for some inspiration – both her “wedding gowns” and other dresses are gorgeous. I tried one on at Lovely Bride and almost wanted to choose it!

Post # 18
76 posts
Worker bee

I love these sites for less traditional dresses. Of all of these, Bhldn leans more traditional but I still think they’re extremely unique dresses (lots of trainless dresses) and I’m considering a dress from there. Another perk of retail is the ability to order and return if you don’t like it and no 9 month waiting period’ defer=’defer






Post # 19
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I know how you feel – this was totally me. Plus I also kept saying “I’m a redhead so I don’t look good in white.”  But my fiancee and I stumbled into a bridal resale shop one day and I tried on a few and was surprised that I actually like a sort of a-line/ballgown shape and do look good in an ivory. The rest is in styling. As long as the dress wasn’t too ornate and covered in sequins and lace I knew I could make it mine based on jewelry. Plus I plan to skip the veil. 


So my advice is to bite the bullet at least once and try some on. You might be surprised. And the worst that happens is you confirm you DON’T want a “bridal” dress. From there you can start figuring out what you do want to wear. 


Or have: make one for you! Her stuff is gorgous and inventive. 

Post # 20
3029 posts
Sugar bee

wolfeyes :  If your wedding is casual enough, this could be an interesting option:

Black crop top, either short-sleeved or sleeveless:

white lace pencil skirt:

high-heeled mules:


Post # 22
6536 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

wolfeyes : Go swing and you (probably) won’t regret it.  Lightweight, comfortable, room for some personality via crinolines, crazy shoes, jewelry and fun hair.  Anyone who knows you will fully understand why you’re not going pretty pretty princess on your wedding day and you’ll still look fabulous.

Mine was from this same website but appears to be gone now… thank goodness he finally married me, I’d been eyeballing it for years!


Post # 24
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I have a friend in the same boat!

None of these may be your style, but I started a Pinterest board for her to help her start visualizing HERSELF as a bride. She’s getting something custom made, similar to the 1st one but with forest green as the underlay with gold accent jewels scattered around the skirt—super fun and so her (she’s also saving cause she didnt tell them it was for a wedding. they just think its a funky dress!)

Good luck and keep us posted as you start to shop, I think you’ll be fine!

hint of color



10 Colored Wedding Dresses For The Non Traditional Bride:

Reem Acra. An absolutely beautiful floor-length lace dress in a teal blue emerald color. Just beautiful.:

 Marsala mermaid wedding dress /

NYC Bride Wears Black Wedding Dress (I'm officially obsessed with this):

Elegant Wedding Dresses: Reem Acra - Elegant Lace Long sleeved Crop Top with tulle skirt -- as beautiful as beauty can be!! Wedding Gown Separates!:

Post # 25
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Just commenting to say I LOVE this thread! 

Post # 26
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

 I second the above post from Carolina.  Unique Vintage, Etsy, and Vera Wang Black would all be lovely.  If you like and feel best in black, maybe try it on and see if embracing color is more you.  For whatever reason I’m thinking a hunter green velvet gown that is 1930s style with a v-neck and either sleeveless or 3/4 sleeve or long sleeve would be amazing. (cute black ones) has a green velvet dress that would be perfect, and they make it to your measurements for only $10.  They make great quality stuff, we ordered from them for bridesmaids dresses.  


Post # 27
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Ok so definitely agree with checking our BHLDN and other shops/designers people have mentioned above. I am also loving colored dresses and crop top gowns too which could be good for you considering you like crop tops IRL. Check this one out:


Hayley Paige is definitely a bridal designer, but some of her pieces just might be off beat enough for you. I suggest looking at her instagram for certain things!

I also love the idea of something like this:


And one time I saw a picture of a bride who was wearing a maxi dress that was ivory, but the top was covered in black lace and she put a tulle skirt over it and it is to this day one of the most beautiful wedding gowns I have ever seen! Definitely look into separates. Maybe even a black long tulle skirt with a lace crop top?

Last piece of advice is don’t knock it till you try it. I thought I would HATE most styles and white on me, but these gowns make you see yourself in a different light so at least put a FEW (not just one) “real wedding gowns” on in different styles!

Also, I dont see whats wrong with wearing a choker with your gown….

Post # 29
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

wolfeyes :  check out there are always amazing non-traditional wedding dresses (and lots brides with blue hair).

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