Post # 1
Okay, I know there are tons of posts about dress doubts, etc., so I know I’m not alone in this, but I feel like I’m takng it to a whole new level. I won’t bore you with all of the details, just a few : ) I was never the girl who dreamt about my wedding dress, which may be part of the problem, cause I guess I don’t know what I want. The only thing I’ve ever known is that I wanted there to be blue in the dress somehow. I was actually going to avoid the whole dress experience and have a dress made…that’s when the neuroses started. I freaked out and decided to shop for a dress instead. My original idea was something simple, in lace, form-fitting and maybe with a blue sash. I found something at David’s but it wasn’t quite right – little did I know at the time that simple and lace can actually be very expensive! Anyway…skipping over some details, I am now a 2 dress bride and I don’t feel great in either. I already feel a little silly being a 2 dress bride and have spent way more than I ever planned to on a dress (well, dresses). The wedding is 6 weeks out and not only do I not want to end up a 3 dress bride!, but I also don’t want to spend any more money. I would post pictures, but because I did most of my shopping solo (probably another part of the problem) I don’t have decent pics. One is a mermaid style anne barge with delicate beading and the other is a discontinued claire pettibone (both were samples) that does have blue lace on the bodice with a slightly fuller skirt. Very, very different dresses and huge departure from my original plan. Big sigh.
Any thoughts, words of wisdom, etc? I think I’ve also been watching too much Say Yes to the Dress LOL – they all end up crying and gorgeous and happy and I just don’t feel that way!
Post # 3
Wait a few days and try them both on again! Its amazing what couple days will do. & getting all dressed up with hair and make up and the veil makes it all look soo different! you’ll look beautiful! But you really do have to stop looking at dresses! lol that doesn’t help!
Post # 4
I haven’t purchased a dress yet because i haven’t fallen in love like those girls on Say Yes to The Dress. My deadline for ordering is approaching… and realistically I think I am just not the type of person to cry over myself in a dress. I will end up getting a dress that I think is beautiful, but I don’t think a wedding dress is the end-all be-all.
And I totally agree with LacyLust about trying them on with your hair and makeup done.
Maybe it’s the small things that will make you feel super special on your wedding day, like wearing a garter or special earrings, or your bouquet.
Post # 5
Whoa, the one with blue in it sounds awesome! I would love to see a photo.
Post # 6
I was in the same boat as you. Never imagined my wedding, never imagined my dress didn’t care too.
I FREAKED out on the first day of wedding dress shopping, to the point that my Mother and MoH came at me with champagne to get me into the car and into the shop!
It took a LOT of dresses and I went at it alone to about 4 stores. I went into it just trying to find in my head “the ultimate party dress”
I found one, i didn’t cry. I was alone, I did wait for my entourage to look at it and told them to NOT say ONE word unless they all just were in love. They all started crying, I had a big grin on my face and was like Sweet, let’s do it!
I don’t think crying over a dress is for everyone, I cry at EVERYTHIHNG, but never clothes and so I knew I wouldn’t be crying when I put on my fabulous gown.
I wouldn’t stress but that is just me.
Post # 7
Some girls cry over the dress, some cry over the food… some don’t cry at all! I agree with trying both on with full hair and makeup though! It makes a world of difference!
Post # 8
TPHoliday – I love that you thought about it as “the ultimate party dress” and I think one of my dresses is definitely that, so that makes me feel much better. Thanks everyone for your input!