Post # 1
Gonna try to keep this short, because I am a long winded mofo also this feel like a stupid, me overthinking things question because I am about to take me fiance dress shopping and I feel silly….
Having a bad case of the princesses but I can’t rationalize a fancy dress. He literally does care, like I could show up in a bralette, cut offs, and bed hair and he would be all like “Someone call victoria secret, because I just spotted an angel” except more dad jokey.
Some of you have got to have spouses that just don’t care, how do you rationalize the expense? Will I regret going super cheap and not fullfilling the whole princess vibe? I feel like unless I start making a hobby of going to black tie events, this is my only chance to wear an amazing dress…
We are suposed to got shopping next week so I need to pick a thing since while he is my bestie, I would feel dickish dragging him to a 2 hour appointment for nothing.
I also kind of have a $400 credit at the place I am shopping so technically I would lose out on that but the cheapest dress qould be atleast $900 before the discount.
Post # 2
If he doesn’t care, why are you making him come shopping with you?
I bought my dress 100% for me. To be honest, my Dh started rattling off some things he didn’t like about wedding dresses and mine had half of those elements. I still didn’t care, I wanted to wear something that made me feel like a 10/10, that was comfortable and that I still felt like me in, but the best version of me. He wasn’t marrying the dress after all, he was marrying me. FWIW he clearly knows nothing because he loved the dress.
My dress was a sample, $4000 down to $900. I would have paid the $4000 though, I just got lucky. It was probably one of very few chances in my life to wear a gown, I was going to get what I wanted.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
Your dress is for YOU. I honestly couldn’t care less about what my fiance will think of my dress. This is MY one chance to wear a wedding dress, I’m going to wear whatever makes me feel amazing!
If this is your one chance to wear an amazing formal dress – run with it. If you’re not spending a lot on other elements of your wedding, you can absolutely justify spending $500+ on a dress.
Post # 4
You can get a princess dress for ‘cheap’ if that’s what you want, though maybe you’d have to shop elsewhere. You might find out you don’t feel as pretty in a ball gown as another shape. Just try stuff in and don’t force it so you don’t have regrets. If he’ll love you in anything then there’s no reason to wear something you don’t care for yourself.
Post # 5
You’re not crazy. Get the dress you like but try to have an absolute max budget. I went over budget by buying a $700 dress. For many on weddingbee, that’s cheap but for me, it was crazy spending that much on a dress I could only wear once. I still bought it though because it made me feel bridal and beautiful. However, I don’t think I would have gone over $1K. Keep in mind the costs of alterations. My friend bought her dress at DB during their $99 sale but spent $400 on alterations
Post # 6
DH said I could spend whatever I wanted (within reason) on a dress and that he just wanted me to be happy, but I could not imagine spending more than a few hundred dollars on a dress for one day. Luckily I managed to find my absolute dream dress on Etsy for 500$, so I got my perfect princess dress at a price that I was very comfortable with. There are a lot of less expensive options that are just as good as the expensive princess dresses you can find in boutiques!
Post # 7
You don’t have to be super cheap to get a nice dress. I remember walking down the aisle in my dress and hearing a woman whisper, “that dress must have cost thousands”. It was 1986 and I spent $400 on it. We were young and poor and in those days my extra $$ went toward skiing. I wouldn’t have looked any better in a dress that cost thousands. Your happiness is what will make you look good, the dress is incidental.
Post # 8
I agree with PPs. My dress was for ME. I never asked his opinion, and he never saw it before the wedding. My Dh truly doesn’t care about clothing and shoes and accessories (many of my favorite things!), so why would I have wanted to shop with him? He would have said, “That’s nice. I like that,” to absolutely anything I put on, and he would have been bored stiff (but would have been too polite to say so).
IMO, it is worth the expense. As you said, there really is no other day you can wear a princess dress.
Post # 9
I bet He’ll like whatever you get as long as he doesn’t have to go with you to look at them.
Post # 10
Absolutely . It’s a rare guy who really actually likes dress shoppping .
pantsapocalypse : Don’t make him go with you. Just find something you like at reasonable price and factor out entirely his response, since you say he won’t mind what you wear anyway.
Post # 11
Sorry guys, it never notified me anyone responded to this.
:He is going because my mom is the devil, I have no close friends and he offered to go and promised to be supportive and objective if I let him tag along.
I’m not, he offered because I was sad about not having anyone to go with me and I wanted a second opinion that isn’t getting a commission. He’s my best friend so it’s more of the friend side of things that is motivating him to tag along, which I actually push back hard on this because all the dresses I like are in the $1000-$2000 range and I wanted an objective opinion but he insisted.
Post # 12
Thank you all for your opinions and support, I have decided to book and appointment, which I told them my price range a head of time and are gonna just not mention it during the appointment, which I didn’t talk about that in the post but he is a stickler for cost even though he was totally willing to spend twice that on a ring…men are weird, but I digress.
So I am diffiantly geting a dress. I put a cap on how much I wanna spend and rationalize I can resale it after the wedding or buy something from BHLDN which has some amazing dresses for under $500.
Anyway, thank you all of the support!
Post # 13
I mean, I hope my Fiance likes me in the dress I wear but I certainly didn’t select it for him. If I were going to do that, I’d pick the cheapest option I liked because the details will be lost on him no matter what. It’s honestly strange to me that you feel like it’s just for him. I think you should go try things on by yourself first to get an idea of what YOU like.
I also don’t think you should pressure yourself to pick because he’s driving there for the appointment. That’s a major reason girls end up regretting their decision. Even if you don’t pick your dress, it is NOT a waste of time.