Post # 1
I’ve been regretting my wedding dress choice for a while now. Shopping was a stressful experience as my loved ones are abroad and could not join me in person.
Overall, I feel like my dress is boring and looks like a nightgown. There’s nothing particularly special or interesting. I have a few ideas, but if they aren’t promising, I may consider selling this and starting over with a pre-owned (hopefully cheaper) dress.
I appreciate your advice on the items below as well as how to deal with wedding dress regret!
1. Boning / Bustier: I was told boning is possible and the shop offered to do this for free. I’m also considering a bustier. Do you know how difficult it would be to add a bustier to the gown? I’m now worried that neither will be possible since the dress is so thin. I’d like to rely on structure in the dress as opposed to wearing my own bustier/corset underneath.
2. Spaghetti straps: I never thought I’d buy a spaghetti strap dress. However, because samples were a bit big on me, those thicker straps looked strange on my frame. It was just hard to imagine what they would look post alterations. The straps have some pretty beads but you can’t really see them unless you’re close. I’m considering adding some lace appliqué (Strap Option 1) to the straps, hoping that it will help reduce some of the “nightgown effect”. I have another vision for the straps but is likely more difficult and expensive to pull off (Strap Option 2).
3. Train: I’m considering cutting off some of the lining from of the train so that it’s transparent.
Thanks so much for your advice.
Transparent train (plus veil)
Strap option 1
Strap Option 2
Post # 2
Your gown is beautiful!!! I wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2022 - Spearfish Canyon SD
I Love it!!! As is! Looks perfect on you
Post # 4
I really don’t think it looks boring or like a nightgown at all, but that could be because I’m going for an ultra-simple look–also, remember that on the day you’ll have a veil, jewelry, hair & makeup and a bouquet accompanying the dress. However, what I think doesn’t matter, what YOU feel is what matters. I like strap option #1, I think option #2 would be a bit too much. I think the way the dress is now has just enough interest for people to notice the dress, but not so much that it takes away from you (because, ultimately, the dress should enhance your beauty rather than outshining you). Suggestions for adding more things to the dress if you’d like: pair a veil with it that has more detail, add a sparkly or pearl belt, plan to wear your hair down to add interest, add one of those cool necklaces that drapes around and down your back.
Ultimately, you look beautiful, and I hope you feel that way on your day!
Post # 5
I like it as it’s on you. However, if you are not happy my opinion is to find a different dress. If you keep it and do straps, I like option 2. However, again, it’s lovely on you.
Post # 6
I think it looks beautiful.
Post # 7
I think it looks beautiful and suits your figure really well (and if it looks like one of your nightgowns…well, I’m seriously impressed with your nightwear!!! Doesn’t look like nightwear to me!)
If you would feel more comfortable with thicker straps, I’d go for the first option, but it does look lovely as it is.
Post # 8
That’s stunning!!!!! Like I’m obsessed with it on you!
i love it as is, but strap option 1 would also work. Definitely NOT option two. No way.
Post # 9
I think it’s perfect. Try it on with earrings and a glitzy bracelet. My personal opinion is not to wear a necklace, given the straps.
Post # 10
I really love your dress bee. I think adding thicker straps would ruin it to be honest, it will look mismatched with the dress.
Post # 11
The dress is beautiful on you. I don’t understand why you want boning and a bustier. What are you trying to accomplish with those changes when the dress looks so great now, and is probably super comfortable?
Post # 12
This dress is really pretty and suits you well! It doesn’t look like a nightgown to me. I wouldn’t recommend changing the straps or making the train transparent as I feel that there’s no need for any changes! But I think that a more elaborate veil (not a transparent one) might work for you. The important thing though is for you to be pleased so regardless of how much we like it, if you’re not happy with it, look for something else!
Post # 13
Your dress does not look like a nightgown at all. It’s not slinky, or satin, and it has structure. It looks like a beautiful wedding dress, and your figure looks awesome in it. I wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 14
I think your dress looks great! If you prefer different straps though – definitely Option 1! I don’t think Option 2 would work well with your dress at all to be honest since it would be obviously added on and not be a seamless piece of lace like that other dress photo.
Post # 15
Thanks for the advice, Bees!
I still have a while to think it through given that the wedding was postponed for 14 months. I came to the realization that my dress qualms may have been recently exacerbated by the underlying stress about the postponement and the safety of family and friends. It seems easier to fret about a dress than the lives of the people we love.
But I won’t think about that now. Let me think about happier things like a wedding dress.
I appreciate all the insight on accessorizing. @newbee5, funny you should mention backdrop necklaces as I was considering one! However, wasn’t sure whether it would “go” given the spaghetti straps ( as @flower895 pointed out). I wonder if something delicate like this might work: https://www.etsy.com/listing/468940352/mini-pearls-back-necklace-wedding-dress?ref=user_profile&pro=1&frs=1
As for boning, I’ve seen dresses that seem to have boning around the waist. Is this boning or something else? See below for an example.
Take care, Bees!