Post # 1
I currently live 3,000 miles away from both my mother and my maid of honor. My mom will be coming out for a visit, but only for a week, and our schedule is a bit packed. She suggested going wedding dress shopping by myself, to at least narrow down the choices for when she comes out.
I like the idea, but when I mentioned this to some co-workers of mine, they were horrified. They said it would be awkward, the dress shop employees wouldn’t take me seriously, and it would be lonely. They even offered to go with me. I like them, but I don’t think we’re really close enough to go dress shipping though.
Honestly, being “lonely” is pretty unlikely for me– I always do clothing shopping solo, because then I don’t feel pressured to hurry up and can take my time. I’m a little concerned about the employee thing, though. I can see how they might not think I was serious about buying a dress, and was just window shopping if I don’t have family and friends in tow.
Has anyone done solo dress shopping? How’d it work out for you? Did the dress store employees think you were not serious about your purchase because you didin’t have an entourage?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
I went wedding dress shopping a few times with just my then six year old nephew. However, the bridal salon was completely helpful and they still showed me dresses I originally had in mind and when those dresses didnt work out they took me to another closed off section of the salon to show me more dresses. I ended up going with that salon after going back with my dad to see it not only because I fell in love with a dress but because they were so helpful and nice!
Post # 4
I went dress shopping alone once before I went with my BMs the next 2 times. I wanted to go by myself so I can get a hint of what I liked without being swayed by other people’s opinions.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I shopped alone and loved it. I wasn’t interested in the “traditional dress shopping experience”. Honestly, dealing with other people’s opinions on my style just isn’t my idea of a good time. I prefer to shop alone, so that’s what I did. 🙂 Once I found my dress, I immediately put down a deposit to hold it because it was a sample. I made a second appointment for a few days later to bring my Mom and Teen LK with me for final approval. Then I went home and showed Mr. LK photos to get his approval. Once mr. LK, Teen LK, and my Mom agreed, I paid the balance and brought my dress home.
Post # 6
My mom mom lives 1000 miles away. We are having a intimate (14 people) destination wedding and everyone invited also lives 1000+ miles away. So — I went dress shopping alone. And it was perfect. I didn’t have to deal with 8000 opinions, I only had to think about what I liked. i ended up finding a sample I liked, took pictures, sent them to my mom, then went back with a local friend to purchase.
All of the sales people I worked with were great. They didn’t take me any less seriously because I didn’t have an entourage. In fact, it was probably easier to deal with just me. However, it was nice to have my mom’s input about the pictures and it was also nice to have a local friend pick up the dress with me — she got to photograph the moment!
Post # 7
I think alone is perfectly fine. I was not a bride who was into bringing everyone in the family or bridal party. It was just my mom and I. This will give you a chance to narrow down some and go to a few different places.
Post # 8
I did mine alone and just emailed and texted others the pictures
Post # 9
I’m looking forward to going alone. I know I won’t feel as confident as I want to in a poorly-fitted sample dress, so modeling for even a close friend or relative sounds miserable to me.
Plus, I want to be candid with my sales person, and not worry that I’m criticizing a dress that someone else likes.
Sending a photo to the folks whose opinions matter will be all the “help” I need.
Post # 10
i had to sneak off to try on a dress without telling anyone because by that time i already purchased a few dresses. i didn’t feel odd because i believe that how you act determines how you are treated. yes i was the only one in there trying on dresses by myself and people prob felt sorry for me but i was trying on very trendy dresses and walking around confident while most brides stuck with safe option. i had already gone to several shops so i was a little adventurous when it came to trying on dresses. i pulled out the funky sashes and hair pieces. and if the consultant doesn’t take you seriously, you can always go to another shop. i got great service everywhere from David’s Bridal to Priscilla of Boston.
Post # 11
Think about an appointment after work or over a long lunch hour. Saturday will be busy with brides shopping with friends and family along.
Post # 12
I went by myself once…it was actually so much more better to just be alone with my own opinions. When I went the first time my mom wanted me in this and kept judging got annoying after a while. It was just very quiet by myself and the consultant was very helpful with everything!
Post # 13
I had a similar thread like this a few weeks ago! lol I’ve been shopping with others… it’s over rated. I would suggest shopping alone even if you had the option of inviting others… it lets you see what YOU want and what YOU like.
Post # 14
I also live thousads of miles away from my family. I made my first dress appointment when I went to visit them and we had a really nice day of it but I also booked a lot of appointments on my own to reasearch dresses and get a better idea. I’m going to visit them again in August so I’ll be trying on more dresses with my family and hopefully putting the deposit down.
The staff in the dress shops were really sweet when they heard I was alone and said they would act as stand-in bridesmaids in the store. I’m glad I didnt feel too intimidated to go alone as I would have missed out on some great experiences!
Post # 15
Honestly, go by yourself!!!
I went to dress store after dress store and tried on so many dresses I lost count. Each time I bought people along with me and got so confused because, although they were supportive, they would like something and I wouldn’t and I felt guilty for dragging them around with no success – which made me want to settle. I had almost decided on a dress that I “really liked” (but did not love) that everyone else loved. Something in me knew it wasn’t 100% what I wanted so I decided I would go by myself to one more store where I had seen a dress I really liked. I tried it on and LOVED it, it was ecxactly “me”. I had time to think about it myself and formulate my own ideas. I then brought people with me to a second fitting with the knowledge that I was 100% sure that I loved it. Everyone with me really liked it but my sister and mum prefered the previous one. However, I had already decided that I loved it when I was on my own so knew it was the one. If I had gone with them the first time I might have been persuaded out of the dress that I am so happy with.
My advice to everyone is go by yourself, then when you have found one or two that YOU love, bring people with you to get a second opinion. So in short, go by yourself and then bring your mum along!
Post # 16
My mother drives me crazy (we differ in opinions) and I usually work night shift, so my schedule didn’t really work with any of my brides maids. I went shopping by myself several times and I found it to be muchh less stressful and I could form my own opinions about dresses.