(Closed) Wedding Dress Shopping Anxiety

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
4657 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am sure they will have dresses to try on for you.

Not everyone is a tiny size and they know that! I’m sure the places will do everything they can to make you comfortable. REMEMBER – they want to make a sale, so it will do them no good to make you feel uncomfortable. 

Post # 3
2273 posts
Buzzing bee


I work at a bridal boutique maybe I can help.

If you plan on shopping on the weekends especially Saturday call the boutique and inquire about an appointment, if its a small store you will want the security of knowing you are guaranteed a fitting room. 

The store I work at is a little more low-key, with mid range prices, so we do not require appointments during the week. However many stores, especially higher-end shops do, so do your homework and either call yourself or have one of your bridesmaids call local stores around you.

Also do research and bring in photos of what you think you might like, you won’t really know until you start trying but at least it gives your consultant a starting point. A word of warning do not get sucked into the problem of pinterest and bring photos of $10,000 couture dresses expecting to find something similar. Not saying you would but you would be surprised how many girls come into my shop and do this. 

Most importantly be confident and bring supportive people. If you have someone close to you that maybe be too opinionated or negative but still want them involved you can always bring them around for fittings after your have chosen your dress. Rookie mistake is to ring too many people I usually reommend no more than 2-3 close guests, especially if you are confused easily.

I know my shop has samples in the size 10-16 range, we don’t like having anything too small so a variety of girls can try things on. However some higher-end/couture boutiques are notorious for carrying small samples, not all but another question you can ask when you call around to stores is what samples they carry.

Also make sure you discuss a budget before shopping, whether your or someone else is paying. Make sure to tell your consultant so they don’t pull anything above the budget and don’t try on anything above the budget, once you fall in love with a dress that is too expensive it is hard to back track.

Also since you are petite I would warn against perhaps a natural waist, with girls a little shorter in stature it tends to look a little cup-cakey. Also dresses with big sleeves or alot of fabric around the neckline might be overwhelming. I would recommend a drop-waist ball gown, a-line, fit and flare, or trumpet. They will help slim you out and make you look taller because it will elongate your torso. 

Good luck and congrats!

Listed below are some nice and affordable bridal brands I recommend (the websites have store locators to find in your area)










  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  llussier.
  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  llussier.
Post # 4
530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

The first time I went shopping, I went on my own to some less upmarket stores on a quiet day.  I tried on absolutely everything, every shape and style.  I didnt have to worry about what anyone thought, and I got a better feeling for what is available.

The second time I went I brought one person whose opinion I value and we had a much better idea of what we were doing.  We had such a great time

When I had it narrowed down to a dress I liked, it was only then I brought in the troops.  It was much easier and really I recommend doing things this way so you dont have to listen to all the opinions through the process.

Now, maybe I dedicated more time to the process than lots of people (I am always somewhat flabberghasted when someone puts down a deposit on the first day they shop) but it worked for me.    

Post # 5
530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

llussier:  Disagree with you about the natural waist.  It very much depends on the figure.  

Post # 6
2273 posts
Buzzing bee


Perfectly entitled to disagree and you are correct it does depend. I have just worked in bridal for three years and after dressing hundreds of brides I have noticed for a majority of petite girls it’s just not always the best shilouette compared to others. 

Post # 8
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I had the same concerns and actually went to five appointments before I said yes to the dress!  Best piece of advice I can give?!  Go during the boutiques slowest time (i.e. on a monday afternoon).  It is so worth it to have the consultants time and not be rushed.  I also recommend keeping your group small.  I actually fell in love with a dress that my family vetoed! 🙁  I also recommend calling a few shops and going with one that has lengthy appointments.  I went to one that had appointments that were only 45 min…. by the time we looked at the dresses and pulled a few, the appointment was almost over!  The store I purchased my dress at had 2 hour long appointments!! 🙂  Good luck!

Post # 9
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Tuscan Farmhouse

Each store is different so just call ahead or stop by. Some are appt only. My store does appts and walk-ins. If you find a store that sells ‘off the rack’ you’ll likely find more sizes available. I have sizes 0-30 in store so it really depends how many bridal lines the store carries or what sample sizes they have. Don’t feel anxious before you start…I’m sure there’s a perfect dress just waiting for you…

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