Post # 1
Ok…so I set up with my Out of Town Maid/Matron of Honor to come in to town on May 2nd to go dress shopping, which will be the first day that I will try on my first ever wedding dress. And I set up with my mother to come with us and we all agreed that this day was good. So I took off from work and everything was set. Now, yesterday I get a call from my mother saying that her and her husband found a great deal for Vegas during the same week!!! And knowing that I would probably get mad and being that she has been to Vegas like 10 other times…it didnt matter to her that this would be the first time that I will try on my wedding dress. Vegas will always be there…I’m only getting married once and trying on my first wedding dress once. So she tried to convince me that just me and her should go the week before May 2nd to try on dresses. But I already set things up with everyone and I really want my Maid/Matron of Honor to be there when I try on wedding gowns and I took off work and everything. And my stepdaughters to be are going to be here to go with us as well. So I told her that she can just come for the 2nd fitting. But now she got all mad at me like its my fault and then she called back and left a message saying that I should change my May 2nd day to a later one so we can all go! I SHOULD CHANGE MY DAY?! Now this may not even be the day I find a dress…but it is the day we all planned. GRR!!
Post # 3
Hate it for your mom, but I agree with you. You set this all up, you’ve got an Out of Town person coming in, you’ve taken off work, etc. You’re totally in the right here! She agreed to the date, knew this was set up… yeah, don’t change it, unless you really feel strongly about having her there for the first time. I’m so sorry she’s being this way! *hugs*
Post # 4
I second Liz.smith.. it was planned. This is important and she should recognize that. Hopefully she will come around. Have you explained to her how you feel about he situation?
Post # 5
Yeah sorry you’re stuck in the situation, but I think it’s kind of inconsiderate for your mom to ask you to change dates when everything is already planned & you have someone Out of Town coming.
Maybe you can explain to her that everyone’s all set and it’s hard to change things around. Since Vegas will always be there and it’s not like she must go to Vegas for something special, it would mean a lot to you if she came as previously planned instead. See if that changes her mind? If she still insists on going to Vegas, maybe you can just try to take pictures of you trying on the dresses to show her so she feels more included?
Post # 6
Thanks everyone! Thanks for the hugs Liz! The first time she called me and told me about it I just said whatever we will talk about this later because I was going in my Future SIL’s house for her kids birthday party and I didnt want to get upset. So I called her back and told her I was hurt and she turned it around on me like I should change the day or make another day for just me and her before this day so she can see me first in the dress. But we made these plans so everyone can see me first, my Maid/Matron of Honor, my stepdaughters to be, and my mom. I want them all there on the same day. We hung up still arguing and then she called back an hour later leaving me a message saying that maybe we can all go on a different date…but we all already set up with work and everything to take off and go on May 2nd. Im not changing my date because she was rude and already booked her trip. Thanks again everyone! Just needed to vent!