Post # 1
okay, so I know most people PROBABLY don’t bring their Fiance wedding dress shopping with them cause of the whole surprise thing and how the Fiance isn’t suppose to see the bride in her dress till the wedding day…. BUT how many people have actually brought their FI’s with them?? My Maid/Matron of Honor lives 12 hours way so she definitely can’t come with me… and my sisters are either TOO judgemental and one of them is preggo so she’s a little nuts right now. I have to travel to the states to try on the dress that I want.. is it weird if I bring my FI?
Post # 3
Nope it’s not weird. But is there not another girl you could take? She does not HAVE to be in your bridal party, she just has to know your style and styles that look good on different people, also how to let you have your word heard.
Keep in mind some men don’t want to see the dress. Mine does not want to know anything. Other than, “don’t worry it’s not ‘crazy'”
Post # 4
Well I could take other people, problem is it’s a 10hour straight drive … haha I doubt any one would want to take their whole weekend away just to go to the states with me. My Fiance doesn’t care if he sees the dress or not.. he just wants me to be happy and he knows that “one” dress will make me happy, he’s actually the one who suggested making the trip down south so I can try on the dress and if I like it we’ll get it.. Because at first I was bummed out cause I had fallen in love with the dress that seemed unreachable.
Post # 5
I was in the same situation, my big sis lives on the wet coast, one of my gf’s lives 20+ hours away and it was an 8+ hour drive to the city to go shopping & all the friends who were local were working the weekend I was there, so my partner went with me.
I asked if he was cool with it before hand & he didn’t mind, but he doesn’t want to see it between purchase & the wedding as alts will make the dress look totally different.
Post # 6
Not strange at all.. I took my mom, grandma, daughter and 2 BMs.. my daughter was asleep lol and my BMs (1 more than the other) was pretty helpful.. my grandma and mom did not have much to say.. it was like I dragged them (mom more than grandma) and was using too much of her time.. mind you.. I tried on 5 dresses TOPS! And all i kept thinking was.. I wish Fi were here.. he is so encouraging.. I kinda wish I brought him instead of everyone else..
Post # 7
I think it’s actually really sweet and you guys will have a great memory of the wedding dress road trip. I personally think that the whole “dress surprise” thing is overrated and he will still be amazed at how wonderfull you will look as a bride despite knowing the style of the dress you picked. Have a great time and take pictures to remember this trip and ofcourse don’t forget to bring us pictures of the dress.
Post # 8
I actually took Fiance on one trip to try on dresses at a store I’d never purchase from, just to gauge what he likes and dislikes. We had a great time, and I liked playing dress-up for him. He won’t know the final dress until the day of though.
Post # 9
I took my Fiance, and it was great! He refused to look at me in any of the dresses, but it was really wonderful to have him there. I had previously gone with a girlfriend, and that was also an excellent experience. But by the second trip, I was pretty ready to buy and knew what I wanted, so it was great to have my Fiance there to talk through the decision with him. He sat in the corner the whole time taking notes and asking questions, which was so helpful. When it came time to buy, we both felt so confident!
Post # 10
i don’t think it’s weird at all. i say bring him. he probably won’t remember too much of the dress between you trying it on and, if you love it, you wearing it on your wedding day. my guy actually brought up tagging along on my dress shopping trips just to make sure i stay within budget. lol. i don’t know if he’s serious but if i can’t find any one else to come with i’ll definitely ask him.
Post # 11
Thank you all so much for responses. i will definitely take him dress shopping with me. I know he will definitely help me make the right decision cause he knows my body well and what looks good and what looks frumpy. and someone did say after alterations that the dress almost looks completely different too so that will be a nice surprise for him =)
Post # 12
I don’t think it would be weird at all. My FH is my best friends and I value his opinion so much… I would consider taking him with me.
Post # 13
For my first wedding, I took my Fiance with me dress shopping. My view was that he was going to spend more time looking at it than I was, so I might as well get something he liked.
My second wedding was a same-sex wedding. The two of us wanted coordinated dresses, so we shopped together.
Post # 14
I wanted to take Fiance with me so badly when I first started looking. Every dress I tried on and liked I wanted his opinion on it before making a final decision.
I didn’t end up taking him because I wanted to keep that “special” moment of him seeing me in my dress for the first time. I ended up feeling ok with my decision when I actually chose my dress.
Then I had an alteration NIGHTMARE! The consultant who sold me the dress was sure the seamstress could expand the bust area on my dress (so the line would fall below my bust like an empire)…which she could, just not as big as I truly needed. Long story short I endup putting my dress on and having it not fit and having the seamstress tell me she isn’t sure she can fix this…it looked so bad there was NO way I could wear it.
…bla bla bla….bridal shop emotional breakdown….and I just knew I needed him.
7 days later I brought him with me to try it on. The seamstress (bless her) took my dress on vacation with her and ended up using the extra lace from the hem to cover where she let out the bust. It looks a little different because the lace goes in two different directions, but no one will notice.
AND Fiance LOVES THE DRESS!!!
He’s my glue and he holds me together. So I am glad he helped me through this big emotional time. If I could do it all over again I would take him dress shopping with me because realistically I know he’ll be so excited to see me that day no matter what!
(plus he can’t remember what colour I wore to his sisters wedding in September and the dress is hanging up on the back of the bedroom door) lol