Post # 1
Okay, so my parents, who are both alive and married, will not be attending our wedding. This is due to religious beliefs and their disapproval of my Fiance. My older sistewr will be my Maid/Matron of Honor and my brother is attending but can;t participate, also due to religious reasons.
So, due to all of this wedding dress shopping has been way difficult. I’m trying to find one online, maybe at one of those chinese replica stores, bc our budget is quite tight. His mom has been very supportive of the whole process, helping me to narrow it down to two choices, which I posted here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/help-me-decide-between-two-dresses-1
She really loves the satin, ruched one, and originally I agreed to get that one. But now I’m having second thoughts, I feel like the other one will suit me better.
I don’t want her to be upset with me for choosing the other dress, as she’s the only mother figure I have right now (I also can have no contact with any family, including my parents), and I really want her approval.
She’s being totally supportive of our realtionship and the wedding, and I really don’t want her to feel slighted.
Should I wear her favorite, which I do like? Or should I go with the one I really love?
Post # 3
I think if your Future Mother-In-Law is supportive of you all the way so far, I’m sure she will understand and support with what want you to have and the dress that you love. It’s a shame about your family, they are really missing out by holding a grudge on your Fiance.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Your future mother-in-law sounds like a wonderful woman. In light of how much support she’s been giving you in your relationship, I think she’ll support you in your dress decision not matter what you decide to wear.
Your own family might have strings attached to your decisions, but your FI’s sounds like they’ll be happy if you and he are happy. Wear the dress you love.
Post # 5
Thanks, that’s what my Fiance has been saying as well. I’m just so worried that I’ll lose the support of yet another family member. My parents are being stubborn, i just hope they come to their senses before the wedding in Feb.
Post # 6
She is. She’s kind of adopted me haha. Thanks
Post # 7
I think you NEED to wear the dress you love or else you will regret it. I would ask FMIL the same question you asked us. That puts the ball in her court and I totally think she will tell you to get the one YOU love. She had her da,y now it is your turn sweetie. I am so sorry about your family. I will be praying they come around. ((Hugs))
Post # 8
Lots of women shop for wedding dresses without their mom. Go with the dress you love since you will be wearing it. You don’t want to have regrets over picking somehting just to please others.
Post # 9
Thanks so much… I’m praying for the same thing.
Post # 10
They are both beautiful dresses, and I voted for the satin one. However, it is your decision to make. I picked out a dress that my Godmother loves, but I no longer like. Your wedding day is about you, and what makes you feel beautiful. I’m sure that she felt honored that you considered her opinion at all.
Post # 11
Both dresses are amazing, I don’t think you can go wrong. I think you should definitely get the dress you want, I highly doubt your Future Mother-In-Law will kick you out on the street for it! But yeah, it’s great to have ILs that are so supportive. I’m sure you can show your gratitude in other ways, maybe treat the two of you to a spa day and lunch or something 🙂
Post # 12
Get the one you love… I get the impression that she will be 100% behind you!
Post # 13
Thanks so much everyone for your amazing reassurances. 🙂