Post # 1
My dress just came in, a strapless ballgown! I’m debating between getting an illusion lace topper or keeping it as is. Here are the pics I took today. My actual dress is the one with the topper. The other was the sample from 8 months ago. The topper I’m wearing in the pic was way too big, as was my dress (yay wedding diet!), hence the uneven neckline and the lace on the shoulders being far out. If I don’t get the topper, I might get a sparkly belt.
My actual first fitting is on Monday, so I’ll try on other toppers with different sleeve lengths. I plan on wearing a cathedral length veil with a blusher and my hair up in a high messy (but not messy) bun. I’d like to wear my hair down with big Victoria’s Secret curls, but my hair doesn’t hold a curl without tons and tons of hairspray. Any advice on how to keep straight & smooth hair curly? (Sorry, first world problems.) I basically wanted to have two looks without buying another dress.
Post # 2
I much prefer it without the topper. The dress itself looks amazing on you!
But he topper is quite unflattering, I think the lace draws your eyes out making your chest/shoulders look wider. I think it could look amazing with a sparkly belt though (or maybe just a different topper?).
Post # 3
I’d say no, I don’t feel like it suits the design of this dress, or it looks mismatched.
Maybe a plain tulle one?
Post # 4
I also think with a long veil and hair down and a blusher …you have more than enough layers. I’d say ditch the topper. Its,beautiful without
Post # 5
I very much prefer it without the topper. Do you need one for a church ceremony? If not, I would go without it, as it is far more flattering without.
Post # 6
I was in exactly the same position! Very similar neckline and everything. I really wanted 2 looks too, but in the end i have decided i was making it a bit fussy by adding a topper and it took away from the classic beauty of the dress!
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! I think I’m going to ditch the topper and just keep it simple and classic.
Post # 8
+1 for without…. it’s beautiful!!
Post # 9
As much as I generally prefer sleeves and straps to strapless, your dress looks like it was meant to be strapless.
I think a cathedral length veil and blusher for the ceremony would be enough for a distinct look if you took them off for the reception. Perhaps you could switch from the veil to some other hair accessory.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
bboyschica : Your dress is so classic & elegant! I agree with the no topper consensus. As for straight hair holding curl… I feel you! I have found dirty hair works best. I wash my hair the day before and use dry shampoo in the roots the day of, if I need to. Also, my hair holds flat iron curls 1000X better than any other curl. If you’re doing it yourself, spritz the strand with hairspray before and after, don’t finger comb until an hour or so after (You want to make sure the hair is completely cooled & set before you finger comb it!). My stylist can somehow get my hair to hold curls for 2 days, which is practically a miracle in my world, just by using a flat iron
Post # 11
That dress is gorgeous. I would NOT do any sort of topper!
Post # 12
The dress looks much better without the topper, and with a veil and blusher you won’t need one anyways!
Post # 13
I had a topper with my dress and LOVED IT because I could take it off for the reception and get the two dress look. But your dress I don’t think fits having a topper, especially not THAT topper. It is STUNNING without and I would leave it that way.
Post # 14
I don’t like that topper. I suppose it couldn’t hurt to try on some others, but it sounds like you’d be wearing it with the veil, so you’re not really get maximum impact anyway. And that dress is STUNNING on you as-is.
As for curls, have you tried rollers in wet hair? My hair takes a curling iron curl okay, so maybe hair that won’t curl reacts differently, but if I set it when it’s wet, you can’t budge that texture for love or money. Goes double if I dry it with heat, but just sleeping in curlers is plenty. The cheap spongy ones are okay to sleep on, especially if you arrange them right, quality doesn’t seem to matter much, if you want to give it a couple home trials before you ask a professional to give it a go under a salon hood.
Post # 15
It looks so much better without the topper!!! Simple but beautiful.
The topper makes it look old-ladish.