- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
So the wedding is nearly 6 months away. I have had an idea in my head about what dress I want for about 2 years. Its $4000 retail but my aunty in law (is that a term?) I’ll call her M, said she would make it for me for a fraction of the cost! She’s very skilled at making dresses, made her own wedding dress and my MILs.
So recently my Mother-In-Law (Ms sister), was diagnosed with secondary cancer of the bones. M is quietly stressing like crazy even though she is trying not to show it. We went to a wedding show recently and it was almost like she was talking me out of her making my dress, her saying that if there is time on Mother-In-Law side she wants to spend it with her, fair enough. However, its like they all have her dead an buried already! Im very close with my Mother-In-Law and she is confident she has many more years left. I also let Mother-In-Law know that M was subtly trying to get me to get someone else to make it (and boosting my dress budget from $1200 to $2500+). Mother-In-Law said I need to get married in a freakin dress and she should stop using her as an excuse.
M is known for over commiting herself btw. She wants to do everything and always assures you she can do it. I know she will make it if i insist but i dont think i want to??? If shes trying to get out of it I dont want to burden her. I have tried on a few dresses at bridal shops and there is one that I love but its $3000, very detailed, one that M or any other dress maker would have a hard time making.
I guess the question is, do I get her to make it anyway, get the dress maker to make it for an extra $1200+ or buy the dress fromt he bridal shop for $2990 with no fuss? (I will get a free pair of shoes or a viel from the ridal shop for doing a bit of modeling for them)
(I want to get straight that Im not being selfish about this, thinking about my dress over the cancer. Im not. I feel bloody guilty taking any money from my FIs family because they will need so much of it for treatment and they want to take an over seas holiday. So…just saying)