(Closed) Wedding During the Counting of the Omer?

posted 6 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
Bee
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I think if it’s not something that you observe, it’s not a big deal, but if you want to get married by a Rabbi, you may have a hard time.  I’m pretty sure that Conservative Rabbis would not do the wedding, and Orthodox Rabbi’s definitely won’t, but I’m not sure about Reform.  Also, Shabbat ends pretty late already at the end of the May, so you may be starting before Shabbat officially ends which might complicate finding a Rabbi as well. If it’s not a big deal to you, I wouldn’t worry about it unless you find that you can’t find a Rabbi (if that’s what you’re looking for) to marry you.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’d check with your rabbi. Even if they won’t do it they can refer you to someone who is comfortable with it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I totally know how you feel. I really had my heart set on September for our wedding but the holidays start pretty early this year. Of course in my case, since we are Modern Orthodox and it’s the high holidays, it’s a no brainer. However, I agree with the others bees that you should consult with your rabbi before booking anything. And expect that if there are people in your family that are conservative or orthodox, they may not attend your wedding. I know that I would not go to a wedding on Saturday, Winter or Summer. It’s cutting it pretty close!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I went to a wedding Jewish wedding on Lag B’Omer this year!  It was fun.  Weddings are not traditionally held during this time because it is a time of mourning for the destruction of the temples.  I did read that some weddings can be held on Israeli Independance day b/c it is a happy day, even though it is duringthe Omer.

A cantor will most likely follow the same rules as any Rabbi.

My rabbi is conservative and he would not marry during the Omer

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

As the PP’s above said, wedding are not traditionally held during the omer. If you’re reform or unaffiliated you may be able to find a rabbi who will marry you during the second half, after lag b’omer. However, you may have some guests who would not attend if you did have it during the omer. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@RMNYC:  the didn’t recognize the Omer or lag b’omer in anyway. They had a very springy feel which was nice.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My rabbi is convervative and he does weddings during the counting of the omer. But he is very liberal for a convervative rabbi.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You may also have to avoid the fast around Tisha b’Av, which usually is in the July-August timeframe, depending on your officiant. Our conservative rabbi wouldn’t marry us for that period. Shavout ends May 16th next year, so you may have to postpone to mid-May.

Post # 13
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Newbee

I’m doing April 14th of next year, during the Omer. Our rabbi doesn’t have a problem with it, but he’s fairly liberal. Everyone has different traditions during this time frame. 

Ask your rabbi, go from there.  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

During the omer is usually a no, but some reform and (a smaller) some conservative rabbis will do it (cantors will follow their rabbi’s lead). The bigger problem is during the “3 Weeks” period which is usually July/August which more people consider a bigger no-no for weddings.

Call and ask, no one will fault you for that!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

As an Orthodox Jewess, I can tell you that people do get married during the Omer. You can do it after Passover, it ends April 2nd this year, before April 12th, or anytime after Lag B’omer, depending on the rabbi. April 10th and 11th are Rosh Chodesh, and so a good time to get married, but they are mid-week.

 

Good luck!

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