Post # 1
Im having a little bit of wedding envy. FIs best friend’s wedding invitation just came in the mail yesterday. I knew it was intense when I felt how thick it was and that there were 2 stamps on the envelope! Then I opened it up and it was amazing. They had a calligrapher, the invitation folded out and had this pretty see-through paper with a flower design on it and their monogram. It was also really personalized because it had our names on a little paper wrap around the invitation. Essentially it was beautiful. Then I got really down because I dont think our wedding invitations are going to be that nice. Theyre not something we are going to spend a lot on because we know we want to spend in other areas, however I just got bummed because I was jealous. Has anyone else ever experienced wedding envy – regardless of how silly it may seem?
Post # 3
Maybe the invites were really, really important to her so she spent money on those instead of something else? I’m still deciding how important they are to us!
Post # 4
Listen hun.. your friend isnt being realistic….in about a month NOBODY is going to remember her invatations….really Why spend all that money…after the wedding, what are people going to do with those invites??? Probably throw them out…Im contemplating making my own invites…just because really, why spend so much on something nobody is going to remember??;) The simpler the invite the better I think…The thicker, the more confusing!!! 😉
Post # 5
Clarebee – tell me, what are you going to do with the invite eventually? im guessing it will end up in the bin at some point
try not to feel bad about it – some things are really important or affordable where to others not so much.
Post # 6
Yes, I have atleast 3 weddings involving close family members or friends within 2 months of our wedding. It is really easy to wonder it people think our things are as nice as theirs. I just try to stay focuses on what really matters and that nobody will be thinking about those wedding on our day. And that each wedding has its own “feel” and maybe the things they are doing wouldn’t fit with our event and vice versa.
Post # 7
One of the most important pieces of advice I got when beginning to plan was to number my three highest priorities and my three lowest. Invitations were one of my low priorities precisely because when it’s all said and done, it ends up in peoples’ trashcans. So we spent 1.50 per invite on ours and we have gotten SO MANY compliments on them. You wouldn’t believe it! All that is to say, the more complex, not necessarily the better. (:
Post # 8
Thanks you guys! You made me feel a lot better about it. ANd those were all the things I was thinking, but you all just reaffirmed it for me
Post # 9
Oh my, don’t worry about it!!! I’m sure yours are just as fantastic. Can you imagine how much she must have spent on them? And to tell you the truth, both my older brothers got married last year and the year before and I have no idea where there invites even are or what they even look like. I’m pretty sure that the only people that have their invites saved are the parents and maybe the grandparents. In my opinion, that does not justify it enough for me to spend that much money on them. As long as my guest know where it is,what time, and who is getting married, that’s all I care about.
Post # 10
Every wedding has its own personality and invitations should reflect that. I have actually saved all of my friends’ invitations (apparently I am in the minority, but I am sentimental!) – some have been very expensive, others were made by hand but each have their own personality and I love that they are all different and each reflect the wedding and couple so accurately. Frankly, some of the more expensive invites I’ve received were not my favorites, just because they were rather plain for my taste. Make sure your invites are beautiful, represent your wedding and that you love them – that is all that matters!
Post # 11
@pompom – i think the only invites ive ever saved was hubbys diving buddy because they were made out of metal & engraved, cost about $3K (for the package) and the marriage lasted less than 12 months. i keep it as a reminder to not sweat the small stuff because for me, there are more important things to worry about
Post # 12
Sure have a healthy bout of jealousy, but keep it in perspective so that it doesn’t turn into resentment. She’s agonized for hours over those invites, and the fact that you have appreciated her efforts means all her hard work pays off. I think the thing to do is say to your self “Wow, her invites are almost as good as what my programs/flowers/escort cards are going to be!” Maybe she’ll feel secretly jealous too when she sees what you’ve been working towards…
Post # 13
Ive had the jealousy.. but then i realised I did not have the money to do what the other girls have, so I have to make do with what I have and yes i do get a little dissapointed sometimes, but everyone is differant, every workload or situation that these girls have is differant. Im doing the best I can on the budget and time I have. The most important bit is that my FH will be there and we will be married, with that in mind it calms and makes me not jealous.
As they say, the grass is always greener on the otherside.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I’ve definitely had wedding envy over the past two weddings I’ve been to, both were super-nice and cost way above my wedding budget…It’s normal to be a little wistful/jealous/irritated but don’t let it get you down! I’m sure your invitations will be lovely and like you said, you’re spending money on other things…Maybe this couple elected to have posh invites but are only going with beer and wine for the reception or something…
Post # 15
I’ve also had some serious wedding envy… I wished we had more money to spend on certain things, had gotten my first and second choice of venue, etc. But the funny thing is, a lot of people have told me they had wedding envy of MY wedding, which totally blew me away. I’m sure someone will envy yours, as well. 🙂
Post # 16
I had some wedding envy with a friend that just got married in October. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding BUT even though I had wedding envy, I realized that some parts of my wedding were going to be different than hers & I just needed to be happy for her.
I know how you feel girl, & sometimes it can be a tough thing to do through. But your wedding WILL BE the best day of your life & after its all said & done, you won’t want to have changed a thing! Think about all those people who don’t get to have what you have, they’ll be jealous of you! Be happy that you get to have a beautiful wedding PERIOD!! 🙂