I Know these posts are quite dated, however I found it helpful in trying to figure out my own situation. If there is anyone who can offer additional advice, particularly aiming towards the other side of the story, not mine, that would be much appreciated.
My cousin got proposed to in 2015 and planned to have her wedding 2 years later in September 2017. My sister who is the eldest cousin fianlly found her mate and they wanted to get married in November in City Hall; I convinced her not to do that knowing that our parents want to be able to give her away in a proper ceremony. She then moved her date to fist weekend of July and as she was finalizing everying, I found out that I was pregnant and my due date was end of July. Knowing that babies typically arrive a couple weeks earlier and especially in our family, they are typically born quite a few weeks earlier, my sister and family did not want me to miss her wedding especially since we’re very close and grew up together for 27 years without ever being apart. My sister and her fiance were forced to change their date but the catch is that they could only chose a summer month, after June and before September, since her fiances entire family live in the US, work for the school there and study nursing etc. while the rest of us are in Canada. In addition, it is not a typical Christian wedding where dates do not matter, it is a Hindu wedding where dates are very auspicioius.
The only wedding date they were able to get prior to September was last week of August in order to accomodate the fiance’s family and myself to give me and my baby a month or so to recover.
We knew our cousin’s wedding was goign to be in September, however we thought it was 2nd week, which would mean there’s a 2 week gap. As it turns out, both weddings were going to be 1 week apart. OUr family who lived outside of Canada, and others we spoke to, did not see an issue with the dates being 1 week later since one wedding was Hindu (typically 1 week long) and the other was Christian (1 day for both ceremony and reception). Other family who were traveling from the US on our side preferred the weddings 1 week apart because a majority of them could remain for 1 week but anything outside of 1 week they would have to choose whose wedding to attend.
Keep in mind my sister and parents did not expect family to attend my sister’s wedding and realized that my cousin’s wedding was priortiy since she booked her dates first.l However the cousin’s family was VERY offended and believed that we chose our date intentionally and proceeded to phone the entire family and told them in order to ostracize us. We honestly did not choose the dates intentionally as we were unaware it was 1 week apart, regardless we did not see how the 2 weddings would be affected in any way. Each bride would have her day(s) and the spotlight would not be removed from either of them.
Our family ended up moving the date recently to 2 month after the issue, since we genuinely were sorry that we hurt them unintentionally and did not want to cause any lifetime drama which is what it would be had we continued with the initial date.
Does anyone see any issue to having the 2 dates 1 week apart? Keep in mind the cousin did not mind if my sister’s wedding was to be 2 weeks after hers, she just did not want it anywhere close to before her wedding. Any advice showing me my cousin’s reasons will be very helpful in me being able to put this all to rest at a time when the cousin and family refuses to talk to us to work out a solution.
Thanks for reading and taking the time to respond if you do!!