Post # 16
Medical emergencies and disasters like your house burned down, I’m hapoy to help you out, but for a wedding? oh hell no. We ALL want stuff we can’t afford but we all don’t go around begging. Just plain tacky.
Post # 18
I think it all depends on your community, and the values that you live by. When my SO and I got engaged, we decided to have a carboot sale to kickstart our savings and having mentioned that to friends and families we’ve been inundated with offers of books, clothes and household items to sell – probably worth a few hundred pounds! We’re hugely grateful for the love and thoughtfulness behind these donations, and are looking forward to treating our friends in kind whenever we can.
This is obviously a very different scenario, but I know if one of my close friends wanted to get married and couldn’t afford the ceremony they dreamed of, I’d happily throw some money or physical support they’re way. That being said, I’m based in the UK and live in a very liberal, working class social bubble, where most of us have spend our lives surrounded by people struggling to get buy for one reason or another. Now that we’ve reached our 30s and can support ourselves almost-comfortably, it’s nice to be able to similarly support the people we care about.