Post # 1
I have a quick question regarding the proper wedding etiquette regarding a specific issue. I am the current president of my church board of directors. My mother keeps bring up the idea of announcing our wedding ceremony date and time in our weekly Sunday bulletin. She says that we should put it in there so that any member of the church can attend and witness the ceremony. The reception would be via invitation only. To me, this seems like a recipe for disaster… I personally think it’s kind of tacky to invite someone to the ceremony only. I am also concerned that with me being the president of the church, we’d be “opening the floodgates” because everyone and their brother would want to come. I have seen in other posts that people recommended having a bowl of punch and some snacks immediately following the ceremony. Due to time constraints, this would not be an option. What is the proper etiquette thing to do in this situation? – Jay
Post # 3
I wouldn’t put the date and time in! Then you’ll get random people showing up.
That’s also a trick theives use- if you post your date& time, they know you won’t be home and they could rob your house!
I advise against it.
Post # 4
I agree with MissStellar, I wouldn’t put it in that way you don’t run into the sticky situation of having un-invited guests. Perhaps you could do an announcement after you get married & then have a time to celebrate with the members of your church with punch & desserts or whatever.
Post # 5
Well, I know in my church regardless of putting it in any sort of bulletin every single member of the church is invited to every wedding ceremony they perform. I’d talk to your officiant because this may be a moot issue. As it was explained to me, is that by allowing you to marry in the church the congregation is agreeing to support your marriage and is invited to watch you create the union. (Do I think many people will come? Probably not but at the same time my Dad is a church officer so who knows.)
Post # 6
We are really active at our church & what is usually done is that the flowers from the ceremony are put on the alter the following Sunday and there is a message from the couple that The Flowers on the Alter Today are in Celebration of the Marriage of…
I have seen people do it both ways in regards to putting an announcment in the bulletin where everyone is invited to the ceremony. We will not be doing that bc we are getting married in the chapel and it only seats about 100, which I think we will fill. Regular weddings that are held in the santuary, well, it really doesn’t matter bc our santuary seats around 250, with an additional 50 in the balconey. Our church is very old and considered historic-2 aisles and 3 rows of pews.
I agree-talk to your officiant. Our church has wedding policies-including fees-which were decided and voted on by the Council of Ministries and Board of Trustees.