(Closed) Wedding etiquette question regarding "and guest"!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

Put their name on the outer envelope and “invited persons name and guests” on the inner envelope.  Of course I didn’t have two envelopes so I put it on the outer envelope like a bad etiquette person πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mchitt329:  If you didn’t have an inner envelope, why do you think it’s bad etiquette?  How else were supposed to let them know they could bring someone? I think you’re too hard on yourself πŸ˜‰

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Wait, do you want to know if you should invite a guest?  I would if space allows.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@SoontobeMrsKCee:  If they’re going to know lots of other people like work colleagues or a large group of friends that always hang out, then there’s no need.  And family will know each other so I wouldn’t worry about them.  If you’re inviting a random friend that will feel like a lemon because they know nobody then I’d give them a +1. (I’m sure it’s bad etiquette not to give everyone one)

ETA: if they’re married or engaged I would also give them a plus one, but in your OP you specifically mention single people πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Miss Manners says you should invite anyone in a serious relationship (spouces, fiance(e)s, live in partners of either sex etc) but you do not have to invite truly single people with a +1 if your budget/venue does not allow.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

From the NY Times Wedding Etiquette section:

Today’s standard plus-one is someone who is married to, engaged to, living with and, yes, in a long-term relationship with the invited wedding guest. Beyond these “must invites,” your plus-one decisions will be based on budget and consistency.

I totally agree with this. We did not give everyone +1s because we simply can’t afford to give every single single person we invite an extra (which would add on something like 30 people), but we invited the SOs of everyone who’s married/engaged/living together/in a long term relationship. One +1 I’ve never met, two I’ve met once. We’re offering our one single (as far as we know) Groomsmen a +1, though he’s out of state, and we aren’t sure he’d be comfortable bringing a date (he’s gay and never actually came out to Fiance, though Fiance knows and they dance around it/joke about it), but he has the option. He is the only one getting a blind +1.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

Whoops!  Totally mis-read that, sorry OP!  Glad not everyone thinks what I did is terrible though. πŸ™‚

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