- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2016 - His Way Church & Chesapeake Room @ Downs Park
So, I just read a ton of the posts on the “Worst Wedding Etiquette Mistakes” thread and it got me thinking…am I making a mistake with my guest list?
Okay, so Fiance and I are having a fairly small wedding because- A.) We like intimate weddings B.) We do not have a lot of money for the wedding C.) I have a HUGE family and there is no way I’d be able to invite them all. Children will not be attending.
I have 5 sisters and 2 brothers (most of which have long time significant others), but I was planning on only inviting my siblings and NOT their SO’s. Here is the breakdown:
Sis 1: She lives far away so I’ve seen her the least of all my siblings and her DH has said less than 5 words to me my entire life. If I invite just her though she would have to travel by herself. Should I invite him too?
Sis 2: Similar to the first but they don’t live as far. I will be inviting her and her children (both over 18) will be in our wedding party…but DH has never talked to me except to say “Hi.”….should I invite him?
Sis 3: We attended her wedding last September and I had only met her DH once before they were married and barely know him. Should I invite him?
Sis 4: She lives fairly far but we have a semi-close relationship. But her DH is her second marriage and again, I haven’t talked to him much but he is a nice guy from what I can tell. Should I invite him?
Sis 5: She has a boyfriend who is a mutual friend of mine and he will be attending, but not as a guest. He will be playing guitar for the ceremony.
Bro 1: He has been married to his SO for most of my life and at one point they lived with my Dad and I when I was younger. I am “closest” with her out of all my siblings SO’s but we only see each other during large family functions. His son is going to be the videographer for the wedding. Should I invite both of them or just my bro?
Bro 2: I’ve never met his girlfriend, but they’ve been together for over a year. Should I invite her too?
The only SO’s we were going to invite would be those who are with our parents (My mother’s husband, FI’s father’s wife, FI’s mother’s husband). We felt that this was justified given the fact that these people have been in our lives and had impact on us just as much as our own parents. But as far as the rest of them go, I have no idea what to do. Help!!!