Post # 1
So I know that the traditional way is for the groom’s family to pay for the rehearsal dinner, but both families have decided we want to do it a different way…and I can’t think of how to word it on our website.
We are getting married in northern Virginia, and most of our guests are coming from MI and IL. My parents live in VA, and are paying for the entire wedding. We don’t have a bridal party, and we are inviting about 90 people. Both of our families do not want to call it a rehearsal dinner, but more of a Wedding Eve dinner/party, and ask the guests that want to join to cover their own bill. I have seen from other posts that this is tacky.. but we are thinking of it more as a party/dinner that anyone is invited. I just want it to be a good time!!! But I want to know that his family isn’t going to be covering the bill for the evening.
Is there a way I can explain it on the website to make it sound non-tacky and just fun night before the wedding?
Post # 3
If you’re hosting the party – inviting the guests, etc – you need to pay for it, especially when the guests are coming from such a great distance.
I think you either have to forgo having a dinner/get-together the night before, or you need to start putting away $20-$50 bucks a month to have an informal dinner. There are options that won’t be very expensive — I’ve heard of some people doing pizza and beer for rehearsal dinners.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I’ve heard the term “welcome dinner” before.
Post # 5
If you are not planning on paying, then the correct term is a ” No-Host”Dinner.
Leaving aside the etiquette issues. the way to phrase the invitation would be:
Please consider attending a No Host Dinner on the evening of _______
It will give all of us an opportunity to get together before the wedding.
We will be dining at ______ address______ at _____ time.
Please see the restaurant`s website for menu options http://www.____
You might consider covering coffee and possibly dessert for your guests.
You could work with the restaurant to offer a couple of options for dessert.
Given that it is a No Host Dinner, you really can
t expect rsvps.
Post # 6
I don’t thing there is a way to make it sound any less tacky. Call it whatever you want to, it’s still a rehearsal dinner.
Is there a way you could have it at a friend or relatives home and just bbq food?