(Closed) wedding events and out of state.. opinions needed

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My cousins both live 5 hours away, and my best friend lives 3 hours away. They all came to the bridal shower and wedding, but I told them NOT to come to the bach if they couldn’t.


Were all tight on money and I didn’t see the point in making them travel THREE times just for me. I also begged them not to get me gifts. I really just wanted them there for my big day. Nothing else mattered to me.


I was in both my cousins wedding  and my sister and I did the same for her. We were there for the shower, but just couldn’t spend the money for the Bach. You do what you can and the bride will def understand!!

Post # 4
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it all depends on your finanacial situation and how busy you are.  Driving 5 hours is REALLY inconvenient, but do you have the finances to pay for gas?  Do you have the time available for all that driving?  Personally, I would probably go to the wedding and one other wedding-related event.  The wedding is the main event, and with all that traveling, I don’t think anyone can blame you for not attending everything.

Post # 5
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

If I were the bride, I would thrilled if you were able to make it to the wedding.  I would definitely NOT expect you at the shower or bach party…however, if you could make it to one, that would be fantastic.

If I were you, I would send a card and a token gift for the shower, and then send a text on the bach party day saying you wish you could be there.

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