(Closed) Wedding Expectations Vs Reality?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I got like that about 2 months out from the big day…. ultimately I just had to let the realization of my marrying my husband sink back in and get my focus back on what really mattered! Once I did that the rest of planning was great… I didn’t freak about things that we didn’t have.. infact I kinda got to where I cut my list and just had what I had and could get done without stressing. Ultimately the day was better than the expectation that was getting the best of me. 😉 Just know it’s gonna be great!

Post # 4
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Fortunately for me, my gf was a wedding planner for 10yrs and I’ve helped her as her assistant.  Something will definitely go wrong but no one will notice.   Everyone gets so caught up in the moment of marrying the Love of their Life, its doesn’t matter.  Its all about being able to improvise and keep on going.

So, when I started planning 2 months ago, I had to put my A-type personality into check.  My destination wedding wouldn’t be possible so I’m creating a memorable day that I can share w/ my family and friends.   And to top it off, I’m marrying my Love who I never thought would come.

Don’t let the little things worry you and keep you up @ night.  Its a celebration that begins a lifetime of many great moments.

Post # 5
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I haven’t been able to have even one of my ideas at my wedding. Everyhing has been cut. They weren’t even big expensive things but some of my more creative ideas. My cake for example. Not happening. No photographer, no church decoration, no guest quilt etc etc. My entire budget got sucked up by the church’s insane fees and the meal he’s always wanted (that I cannot eat)

At this point I feel like I’m paying for nothing and If we are going to go this bare bones, why not just save the money and get jp?

It’s just one day. In the end it doesn’t matter. I’m not a princess so I don’t have princess dreams. No one is going to remember any of it years down he road anywyas so I try not to be too disappointed. It’s what comesafter the weddin that matters.

Anyways, I understand.

Post # 6
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

My unrealistic expectation is that my family will all be without drama, annoyances, and pettiness…ha, fat chance. I do get upset with certain family dynamics and I try to just accept the fact that I cannot change other people’s behavior, but i can change the way I deal with the behavior. 🙂 I’ll let you know if that works for me.

I think the day-of will have some stress that I wish was avoidable.

We’ve all got to remember, as people mentioned in your other post- to focus on the fact that we are marrying the love of our lives, and celebrating that love with our friends/fam.

Post # 7
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

sorry! dbl post

Post # 8
1767 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think the blog post I put on the other thread sums up my opinion pretty well- my wedding isn’t going to be blog-worthy, and some people are going to throw a fit that I’m not having a religious ceremony, and my stepdad will volunteer to help because my mom made him, and then he will complain about how much EVERYTHING costs to the point that we’ll fight over it. Multiple times.

Some people will get completely trashed at the open bar. I will spill something on my dress. We will undoubtedly forget something crucial, like my veil or the marriage license. My hair will not be perfect. My makeup will run. My killer shoes will get kicked off as soon as I have a few drinks. I’ll probably lose an earring.

People won’t show up, or they’ll bring an uninvited guest. A child will break something. We’ll have TONS of cake left over, but we’ll run out of buckeye cookies in 15 minutes. There will be people who don’t dance or eat or enjoy themselves.

And you know what? It’s ok.

I’d love to have a picture perfect wedding where everyone had a great time and nothing went wrong and I was able to pull off everything without a hitch. But only so much is under my control. At the end of the day, I will be married to my other half.

Post # 9
19 posts


That’s terrible! Did you post in the classifieds “looking” section? Surely someone has some cheap decor you can get! I’m making my own cake (pans are $20 at Michael’s with the 40% off coupon and recipes galore online, making fondant etc). Photogs = steady-handed relatives with expensive or high-MP cameras, just ask them to follow you around with that $400 piece of equipment, they’ll love the chance to show off!

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