(Closed) wedding expense protocol

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
Member
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Whether or not you follow tradition is up to you and your families.  Some couples choose to pay for the wedding themselves.  Some brides break up the cost based on guest count (which sounds fair in your case).  Some people stick to tradition and their parents pay for everything.  It’s up to you!

Post # 4
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

What helped me most was having the financial discussion with my parents, and the in-laws. From there we really got a good sense of who would pay for what specifically and what kind of budget they had in mind. It made me feel much more comfortable.

From there, my Fiance and I talked about what was most important and what we thought deserved the higher budgets, and the lower budgets. Throughout the process I tried to make decisions about spending based on my gut response. I didn’t want to abuse their generosity, so I tried to pretend it was my money I was spending when I was making decisions about areas they volunteered to pay for.

Post # 6
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1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

Here’s one strategy: 

Find an online list of typical costs/items. Revise it according to your area or after asking people.  Then talk to your groom about it. Be realistic about what you would be able to save and willing to spend on this wedding (if you like -you can name specific parts/dress, salone, venue etc.). Ask him what thinks he can contribute and cover. Then go present to your respective parents separately what you (as a couple) are able to pay for and afford and what you are not sure about….wait with a dramaticpause…then the parents can offer up whatever they see as necessary and would be fun.   I would ask your parents, if they do contribute,  Does this come with any strings attached? I made the mistake of assuming it wouldn’t but then I heard my mom and my dad complaining about not being able to invite more friends etc., hinting that because they spent money…they should be allowed more guests.

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