(Closed) wedding- facebook awkwardness – just a vent

posted 6 years ago in Technology
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ewww, I agree with you!  Tacky tacky tacky!  I would have to say something to that Bridesmaid or Best Man, but I tend to like to have the last word (how mature, right?)  I would say “I’m so sorry your unhappy with the dresses.”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@mandypop:  I’m always surprised at how oblivious and inconsiderate people can be.  

If I were you, I would untag myself and not say anything.  By untagging yourself you are saying that you don’t want to be a part of this conversation (for obvious reasons), but you don’t need to point it out and start any drama.  I’m pretty sure your friend will understand why you untagged yourself. No explanation needed.  If she does ask – tell the truth.  You didn’t want to see some random person put down your choice of bridesmaid dress.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I thought the response by your friend was good though-“When it’s your wedding you will get to pick the color”. I know personally I would to get to pick my own navy dress for a bridesmaid dress. That way she might actually have the chance to wear it again. I would untag myself if I were you, since it really bothers you. If she asks I would just say that you didn’t want that on your wall, I am sure she will understand.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mandypop:  Aww, I’m sorry!  Your friend probably didn’t mean it as an insult, like that navy can’t be beautiful…obviously she was happy enough to want to show it off on FB!  I’d just un-tag yourself and let it go, you ARE being extremely flexible with your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. And, FWIW, I’ve had so many people tell me that picking a dark blue was a great idea because it compliments most people and because plenty of girls have no occassion to re-wear an overly bright dress while navy is an easy one to wear again.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I personally think your friend was trying to stick up for you with her comments. It was kind of the nice way to brush off the other girl..

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

it does kind of sound like your bridesmaid was trying to get the friend to let it go by basically telling her she should only worry about her own dresses. she probably could have worded it better though.

you can point it out to her by saying something like “can you untag me in that post? i don’t really want any critiques on my wedding from people i don’t know”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ugh, that is really distasteful…I can completely understand, my feelings would absolutely be hurt! People just have no shame on FB sometimes, I’m really sorry that you had to see that πŸ™

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

For the record, I love navy and am planning on having navy bridesmaid dresses, too. πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Y’all are right…I read that wrong.  She should remove it all together.  Good for you for being the bigger person!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

People haven’t quite learned that everyone can see what you post on the internet. I don’t think your Bridesmaid or Best Man was insulting your choice she just told her other friend she could pick her color (apparently she likes bright colors!) when she gets married. Your friend is right though, it is a bridesmaid’s dress and she didn’t have a say in the color. That’s just how it works. She was more stating the obvious than being rude. I would just untag and let it go.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think you have been very flexible! However WTF with that BM’s friend. I don’t get how people think things on fb are private. I would just untag myself but part of me would want to comment “hello I’m the bride and can read this!” Not to throw your Bridesmaid or Best Man under the bus but if I had been in that situation I would have deleted my friend’s comments.

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am so proud of you for trying to keep your wedding off of Facebook, it’s something I am doing myself to try to avoid the situation that you are dealing with now . I will say that the person who made the comments probably wasn’t intentionally trying to be hurtful, she probably didn’t realize how much of a jerk she was being.   It seems like all too often people forget that things they post of FB or the internet can really be hurtful, or taken in a way they weren’t intended. Try to brush it off, get yourself untagged, or better yet ask the bridesmaids to take the pictures off and have a talk with them about keeping wedding details to themselves from now on.  It is your day and they need to respect your wishes to keep it off the internet.

I am sure that your Navy bridesmaid dresses are beautiful, it’s the color i picked for my maids also and its an awesome choice.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

First of all, I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding in FL in July and her dress color is navy – it’s a beautiful color that looks great on anyone!!! Second, if the situation was reversed, I would have to imagine my FB friends would realize that the bride was tagged in this and I would be acutely aware of it as well!

I don’t think she meant anything bad by it, but I agree, it’s a bit awkward. Props to you for being so decent about it and nicely untagging yourself – I’m a big-mout and probably would have commented myself saying “uh, I’m totally on here guys…” and just let it go at that. Ah, the joys of being a bride πŸ™‚

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