- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So for several reasons (many of which have been discussed in threads here, haha), I have kept my facebook wedding talk free. I posted one engagement picture, and posted one status about being a year away (back in September). I even deleted wall posts when people wrote on my wall about getting the Save-The-Date Cards (I sent them private messages explaining why I did that though, and everyone understood).
But yesterday I had my first dress fitting and 3 of my 4 bridesmaids came. They were also trying on bridesmaids dresses. One of them posted a cell phone picture of herself in a dress she tried on and tagged me in it (I didn’t realize this until I got home hours later).
When I opened up facebook this morning, I had a notfication that there were 6 comments on the picture. It was one of her friends (who doesn’t know me and I don’t know her) saying “no no, brighter color PLZ!!!!” My friend responded “its a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, not a choice!”. Her friend responded again with “boo. stuck with navy? poop!” and then my friend wrote “don’t worry, you can pick a bright color when its your turn to tell me what to wear”. Friend responded back “oh yes, you will be bright and beautiful for mine!”
Now, I have pretty thick skin. I’m not easily offended, but this whole thread stings a little. First of all, I told the girls from day one – I want you to feel pretty and spend and wear what you want! I told them to find ANY navy blue dress they liked – literally – short, long, strapless, strapped – whatever. I’d also told them since navy goes with everything, they can accessorize it however they’d like.
I thought I was being really flexible and I thought they’d all be happy with that… but a) how rude of her friend?! Obviously with an ounce of common sense, she would have known I was tagged in that, or that at least I’d see it? and b) I guess I’m a little surprised my friend didn’t redirect the conversation away from insulting my color choices…. SHE obviously knows I’d see this…
I want to untag myself because its awkward to have a whole conversation about my “poop” wedding color choices showing on MY facebook?! But I also don’t want to make her feel bad or start trouble. I think I will just untag it and tell her its because I don’t want anything wedding related on my wall… but … uhhhg.
Anyway – just needed to vent. So appreciative of having this place to get things like this out. 😛