Wedding family photos? Is this normal?

posted 2 years ago in Family
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Tiabeille :  The family photo is normal. The coordinated outfits for people who are only guests is not. That’s probably where stems the confusion.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

Family photographs are common. Asking family members to coordinate their clothing for the family photos is not. (Don’t do this–it’s rude!)

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Busy bee

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Tiabeille :  Family photos absolutely; but I would never ask them to coordinate their outfits. They can wear whatever if they like; if it clashes too much in photos for your liking then turn the photos black and white

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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Tiabeille :  I don’t think you address the coordination of their outfits because 1) that isn’t a thing and 2) you don’t tell other people how to dress.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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Tiabeille :  I’m not sure why they didn’t foresee participating in family photos, since that’s pretty standard. I didn’t ask our families to coordinate because I didn’t care that much, but my mom and Mother-In-Law ended up wearing nearly the same shade of blue dress, which looked really nice in our photos with just the parents. One of my SIL surprised me with how casually she dressed, but you don’t really see it in the group photo unless you’re just looking for it. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Family photos are definitely the norm, but dictating guests outfits isn’t. I have never seen a whole family co-ordinate at a wedding. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Family photos are normal, but guests dress themselves. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

….why do they have to coordinate outfits?

Are you thinking like the posed family photos where everyone wears denim or purple?

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

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slomotion :  

 

OP please come back and post your photos after the wedding!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

Yup +1 to everyone else. You don’t get to dictate what guests wear. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Honestly, I would let them wear what they want. If it drives you up a wall do what a PP suggested and turn some of the pics black and white.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Tiabeille :  They don’t need to coordinate. That’s probably the part they didn’t understand because it’s not typical. I wouldn’t mention it again and if they ask you about it, tell them nevermind, just wear whatever they’re comfortable in. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

PPs are right. Family photos are totally normal. And in the several weddings I’ve been to, family HAS coordinated, so I always thought it was normalcy too, but apparently it is just for the sake of aesthetic. I do agree that they should wear what they want (as long as it’s not white, duh), but I thought families WANTED to coordinate. My future in-laws have already discussed their desire to coordinate for our wedding. 

Weird, lol.

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