Post # 1
So it was recently brought to my attention that my fiancé’s family didn’t know they would be in formal photos with us on our big day.
I mentioned that it would be nice if their outfits were somewhat coordinated and was met with confusion.
I assumed (my fault I guess) that family photos were standard and understood. Am I totally off and how do I address this now that a few of them have outfits that aren’t at all coordinated.
Wedding is in 4 months…
Post # 2
The family photo is normal. The coordinated outfits for people who are only guests is not. That’s probably where stems the confusion.
Post # 3
Family photographs are common. Asking family members to coordinate their clothing for the family photos is not. (Don’t do this–it’s rude!)
Post # 4
Family photos absolutely; but I would never ask them to coordinate their outfits. They can wear whatever if they like; if it clashes too much in photos for your liking then turn the photos black and white
Post # 5
I don’t think you address the coordination of their outfits because 1) that isn’t a thing and 2) you don’t tell other people how to dress.
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
I’m not sure why they didn’t foresee participating in family photos, since that’s pretty standard. I didn’t ask our families to coordinate because I didn’t care that much, but my mom and Mother-In-Law ended up wearing nearly the same shade of blue dress, which looked really nice in our photos with just the parents. One of my SIL surprised me with how casually she dressed, but you don’t really see it in the group photo unless you’re just looking for it.
Post # 7
Family photos are definitely the norm, but dictating guests outfits isn’t. I have never seen a whole family co-ordinate at a wedding.
Post # 8
Family photos are normal, but guests dress themselves.
Post # 9
….why do they have to coordinate outfits?
Are you thinking like the posed family photos where everyone wears denim or purple?
Post # 10
OP please come back and post your photos after the wedding!
Post # 11
Yup +1 to everyone else. You don’t get to dictate what guests wear.
Post # 12
I didn’t want them to be matching, just coordinated. My siblings decided to wear shades of a similar colour, his siblings are wearing different colours and patterns.
Also we aren’t having a traditional bridal party because we didn’t want to have to dictate what people wear.
Post # 13
Honestly, I would let them wear what they want. If it drives you up a wall do what a PP suggested and turn some of the pics black and white.
Post # 14
They don’t need to coordinate. That’s probably the part they didn’t understand because it’s not typical. I wouldn’t mention it again and if they ask you about it, tell them nevermind, just wear whatever they’re comfortable in.
Post # 15
PPs are right. Family photos are totally normal. And in the several weddings I’ve been to, family HAS coordinated, so I always thought it was normalcy too, but apparently it is just for the sake of aesthetic. I do agree that they should wear what they want (as long as it’s not white, duh), but I thought families WANTED to coordinate. My future in-laws have already discussed their desire to coordinate for our wedding.