Wedding family photos? Is this normal?

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’d leave it up to them to decide. My family likes the look of coordinated colors in pics,  so they are coordinating.  My in laws seem to be doing something similar too.  I let my mom and fmil decide what they want to do. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Family photos is normal but coordinating outfits are not. Don’t ask family meme nerd to coordinate outfits. I personally find it tacky

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Tiabeille :  It is common, I usually try to coordinate based off the wedding colors, but it’s not neccessary.  It really won’t be a big deal if everyone isn’t coordinated.  IT’s just nice to have a big family photo when everyone is all dressed up and all together.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper

I’m surprised so many family members already know what they plan to wear to your wedding four months out! I’ve known MOBs and MOGs who are still shopping a month before the wedding. 

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper

Tiabeille :  “Also we aren’t having a traditional bridal party because we didn’t want to have to dictate what people wear.”

This statement is confusing. If you don’t want to have to dictate outfits then just let them be and this isn’t an issue. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

Is this a regional thing? I live in Canada. I’ve never heard of asking your relatives to coordinate their outfit for family photos.

I would be offended if the bride or groom suggested what I should wear.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m with everyone else. You risk alienating and offending others when you try to “suggest” or otherwise dictate what they wear. They don’t need to coordinate. As a matter of fact, if both sides are coordinated to different colors/themes, your wedding is going to look hella weird.

Post # 23
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Busy bee

It’s common for parents to coordinate colors, but not the rest of the family. That just conjures up images of multiple siblings and cousins in the awkward family photos wearing similar colors. 

Post # 24
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Busy bee

I actually think it’s normal that family (immediate ones at least) coordinate. Sort of like the bridal party. So I don’t understand why it’s receiving so much hate..

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

I’ve never heard of family coordination their outfit to fit certain colours or anything like that. Yes photos are normal but as long as it’s suitable for the occasion, I’d say let when wear whatever they want.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

Tiabeille :  Hahhaha what? You don’t want to dictate what people wear….that’s what you are doing. Family clothing coordination is not a thing

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee

Family photos are pretty standard.  Asking family members who not in the bridal party (bridesmaid, groomsman) to coordinate outfits is definitely not. 

I’d be pretty irritated if a family member told me or asked me to coordinate for a wedding photo.. ie, “wear a shade of blue” or somehting like that.  Honestly, I can’t imagine doing it for any sort of family photograph, although I know some people are into that.  I’ve been dressing myself for a very long time, I know what colors look good on me, and I’m going to keep dressing myself. 

The only time I’ve ever been asked (as a guest) to wear a specific color to any sort of function was for the funeral of a little girl who died of leukemia.  Her favorite color was pink, and her parents asked if people would wear pink to the funeral, because that is what she had asked on her deathbed.  (I went out and bought a pink dress.)

Post # 29
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Busy bee

If you ask me to wear a color dress that I do not own while I have plenty of other dresses that are otherwise appropriate, I’d be super annoyed at having to go out and buy an outfit so I could be a coordinated prop in your wedding photos. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I didn’t receive any push back when I told my siblings and parents that out would be nice if they didn’t clash with the colors and have them palette. I suggested it but don’t really feel that I was dictating what they should wear. I think this is fairly normal. I’ve heard of it in a couple weddings and didn’t hear anyone having an issue about it

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