Post # 31
Well OP , you and maybe two others think its ok to ask for coordination , but the general consensus, and – far more to the point – the people being asked , don’t think it is . So why not just drop it ?
PS. family photos are of course normal. Odd they didn’t know that , have they never seen wedding photos before ? Or been to a wedding ?
Post # 32
Family photos are so standard it’s shocking they wouldn’t expect it, but the coordination of outfits not so much. Don’t get me wrong, I understand the thought of ‘that would look nice’ in relation to matching styles, but definitely not something I would dictate. My brothers only went shopping today for clothes for my wedding next week, and even though they asked what they should wear, and I said it would be cute if you happened to find XYZ that matches our colours.. if they turn up in the complete opposite colour because they liked it then that’s fine by me still.
Post # 33
The photos are normal, but I’ve never seen the matching thing. I did go to a wedding as a kid where everyone was asked on the invite to wear something purple (some people just wore a purple tie or jewelry), and my mum just batch died the whole families old clothes purple!
Where I’m from the MOB normally matches the wedding party, and MOB and MOG can’t be in the same colour. I didn’t mind if my mum matched or not as long as she didn’t clash (she decided to match the bridal party, and then my dad decided to match her). I also didnt mind what MOG wore but she asked to be let known what MOB was wearing so she didn’t wear the same colour. I did also let all the female guests know what I was wearing as it wasn’t a white wedding dress, and I didn’t want them to wear anything too similar!