Post # 1
I’m the oldest child on both sides of relatives and first to get married within my group of friends also. I received a ton of congrats, well wishes, etc from my family and friends.
However the groom side doesn’t seem to care as much, there’s no tension at all with his family and friends but there’s a huge difference in when we go to my side and get fanfare, and none really from his side. Also, FI groom is a middle child so he tends to get lost in the shuffle in his family I suppose.
Anyone else have the same experience? Just curious.
Post # 2
My FI’s dad referred to me as his “friend” once. Not gf, not fiance, friend. It was so strange it made me laugh.
My family didnt really do the big fanfare thing either though, so I suppose I wasnt expecting much from his family.
Post # 3
It was the other way around for us.. my family didn’t seem to care.. none of them said congrats or anything when we got engaged, but fi’s family was totally excited!
Post # 4
I’m the only girl in my family, and also the youngest. All of my brothers have been married (1 of them is divorced). My parents are extremely happy for us, and they adore my FI, but it honestly feels like my mom is a little burnt out on the wedding stuff. She tries to act excited, certainly, but I’m not really buying it. It’s ok, though, doesn’t upset me. We’re private people anyway, and no one needs to be excited about our wedding but us.
FI is a middle child. His older brother is unmarried and does not want to marry. His younger sister has been married for several years now. His family is pretty excited.
As far as “fanfare,” I will not be having any bridal showers or anything, and that’s my choice. Just not into that sort of thing. I also don’t have lady-friends, which makes that kind of thing easier on me, too.
Post # 5
Both our families are happy for us. I suppose my family might be a little more excited because I’m the first of their kids to get married. Both of FI’s sisters are already married.
Post # 6
What kind of ‘fanfare’ are you expecting?
Post # 7
All families are different. My parents were EXTREMELY excited when I told them that I was engaged because I am the only daughter in my family. This is also why my elopement caused WWIII. My husband’s family was excited as well because he never brought any of his girlfriends around them. He is also very shy and introverted, so they found it hard to picture him falling in love and marrying. So ridiculous because introverts and shy people can fall in love and be romantic just like anybody else.
Post # 8
Both sides were excited in their own way …right away everyone congratulated us ( although i was the last to know of the engagment lol) … but one side was really wound up at first and have slowed down a bit now while other seems to be getting more excited little by little