Post # 17
I say you should give a favor, but make it a “functional” one that people will actually use or eat. Nothing expensive or anything – just a memento.
Personally I hate it when the bride/groom makes a supposed “donation” to a charity and says, “in lieu of favors, we send X number of dollars to X charity.” Ummm I’d rather have the damn favor. And being the skeptical one, I think that half of the times the bride/groom say they are giving a “charity” favor, they really aren’t. There isn’t any proof.
Post # 18
I’m excited to give favors 🙂 They’ll definitely be edible; I can’t stand meaningless tchotchkes. As far as functional, I’ve tossed out luggage tags, coasters, etc all functional but why would I want something like that to bear the emblems of the couple getting married? My favors will be personalized, admired for a hot second…and devoured! lol
I’m not really a fan of the whole “exchange” notions that go into a wedding. No one breaks even, no one benefits, no one is paying for a plane ticket/gas, hotel, outfit, gift etc in exchange for a drink and a meal because if they are, they’re getting ripped off. They’re there for you and to celebrate you, almost everyone is bearing some cost…try not think of it as an exchange or that you’ve already done enough, it comes across transactional.
Post # 19
@Jules0218 I don’t like the attitude of “I’m paying for their dinner and drinks”. You invited them… they aren’t doing you a favour or something, and I think giving out wedding favours is a nice way to thank people for all the time, money, and emotional support they invest in your wedding day.
Post # 20
Yeah, if you’re on the fence and can afford it I recommend it. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 21
I had never heard of them before beginning my own wedding planning and they were everywhere online. I’m on a budget, I don’t have money (or time) to spend over items that will end up in the thrash can. The wedding and reception is a party we’re throwing, and we’re inviting our family to attend. We’re offering quality time and fun time we people we love most, and don’t get to see that often. They don’t need an engraved wine glass or chocolate bars to fully enjoy the experience.
Post # 22
If it’s not edible I don’t want it. FI is a pack rat and loves nicknacky things, he won’t let me leave those types of favours behind! I think the majority of non edible favours no one really wants, they either get left behind or people take them because they feel bad leaving it, only to throw it away when they get home.
Post # 23
When I first became engaged, I though I wanted them. However, as time went on and money was being allocated for different things, I realized they weren’t necessary!
Post # 24
We did not do favors at our wedding, and while I’m sure some people noticed, nothing was said about it. We did not have the time or money left in our budget to cover them. We had about 60 guests that were all family and close friends. If any of my family had been offended they would have said something. I’m sure they are appreciated but not mandatory. I’m ok that we didn’t have them 🙂
Post # 25
I have so many coozies, match books, wine toppers and things I put in the good will pile over the summer. Candy bars or edible favors are nice, but you are already feeding me, so why do I need another bag of candy to take home?
That being said, we will have favors. It’s of those things I don’t care about but my mother does so I am letting her “win” this so I can “win” something else down the road that I actually care about.
Post # 26
I have yet to be to a wedding that did not have favors, it might just be the community I am in. We did them and people loved them which was pretty awesome. Heck, I really liked our wedding favors (we did wine stoppers) and people really liked them.
Post # 27
We are on a tight budget so wedding favors although nice to have (especially if they are edible and yummy!) were one of the first things we had to scratch out of our to-do list.
Post # 28
My fiancé was oddly adamant on favors, and he’s been to a few weddings where he’s loved the favors so we have bought them. We’re doing mini heart shaped measuring spoons and mini whisks, which is fitting because we love food and I’m a pretty avid baker.
Post # 29
if I wasn’t doing can koozies I wouldn’t be doing favors at all. Our venue (as tacky as it is) doesnt do kegs they have cans of beer…