(Closed) Wedding Favors or not

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve been to plenty of weddings that didn’t have favors and I never miss them.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am planning on giving cupcakes as my favors…I will probably have them made for me. to save me some time and stress..but if you want to save $ you could make them yourself and then get some cheap individual boxes off Ebay to put them in and tie a ribbon around the box…you could do it for less than $1 each. Just a suggestion. Good Luck!!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You don’t NEED favors. You said you really need the money elsewhere, so why not direct the $ where you need them?There have been many posts here on Wedding Bee with comments about how many favors are simply left on the tables.

I also have been to many weddings where there were no favors. I tend to think most of them are a waste of money.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I spent forever bagging personalized m&ms in lovely organza and ribbon bags in my colors for the favors, I would say probably half of them were left on the table after the wedding, people were too busy eating, drinking, and enjoying the cookie table and cake to care about the favors so that was a waste of money for me. I guess only a handful of states actually consider favors to be necessary, many southwest states dont have them as a rule and I dont think I would notice or care if I went to a wedding without them.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Favors are not necessary. I’m not doing them, which leaves me with one less thing to stress about!

I think the food, booze, and entertainment are “favor” enough for attending our wedding.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We did cake balls but I really don’t thing that anyone would have noticed if they weren’t there

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We are doing little swirled lollipops and I think they are just the right size for ppl to be interested. I didn’t want to do the same “candy in a bag” favor or even a “keepsake” cause not everyone wants that stuff. So, for us it’s purple and white swirled lollipops with a monogrammed sticker and ribbon on each one. Didn’t spend more than $50 on 100 of them all done!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some people will miss them at first, but quickly get over it. You don’t need them, and unless they are edible or useful in some way, they may get left behind.

If you want something simple and cost effective, try taking hershey’s kisses and just scattering them on the tables.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As a wedding guest, I always appreciate a small piece of candy.  Even little Hershey miniatures would be awesome.  I’ve arrived hungry to many weddings, so getting a food favor is always appreciated.

I wouldn’t waste my money on cheap favors like picture frames, candles, or anything from oriental trading…

A friend of mine did a “donation in your honor” favor.  I thought that was pretty cool.  A scratch off lottery ticket is a good idea too… 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

What kind of wedding cake are you having?

If that seems like a non-sequitur, unrelated to your question, let me elaborate. For a couple of hundred years, the only “favour” given out at weddings was a small piece of the wedding cake, which unmarried girls would take home to put under their pillow that night so as to dream about their future husband. Even twenty or thirty years ago, that was still the practice. Traditional wedding cakes were dense, durable fruit-cakes, so you could wrap a piece in a bit of paper and sleep on it, and still have “cake” rather than squished yuck when you woke up the next morning.

Americans replaced the traditional fruit cake with a lighter white cake, partly in celebration of the superior American milling technology that made fine white flour available in quantity, and people then packed the little slices of cake in tiny white monogrammed boxes so that these more delicate cakes could be carried home and put under the pillow without squishing. Other brides, who perhaps could not afford little monogrammed boxes, would hand out little bunches of sugar-coated almonds (called Jordan Almonds) — usually a bunch of three wrapped in a scrap of fabric or netting — symbolizing the bitter-sweetness of married life, and the potential fertility (hence, three) of the marriage. Jordan almonds are much less squishable than Lady Baltimore Cake.

All the modern fancy favours you see today, are attempts to improve on this tradition of unmarried girls’ taking home a bit of the wedding sweet — but, of course, with substantially more profit to The Wedding Industry, and with the goal of doing something “unique”.

So, if you feel favours are a tradition you must perpetuate, go back to the tradition’s roots and hand out three Jordan Almonds tied up in a scrap of lace — at a total cost of a few pennies per favour; or have one layer of your cake made as a dense pound cake or fruit cake, and put a little stack of doilies and a spool of ribbon next to it, with a little framed note of explanation, so that superstitious girls can wrap up a little piece of cake for themselves and put it under their pillow that night.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

@Crisark: I love this idea! Where did you get the candy? I’m assuming you just got the monograms and ribbon at a craft store?

@aspasia475: All of your posts are amazing, and I wish I’d been born 100 years ago so I knew and could practice this stuff. 😉

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@bellagio: I actually ordered the suckers and the monogrammed stickers came with them from http://www.orientaltrading.com. They came individually bubble wrapped and I got 96 for $50 and they were delivered in less than a week!!!!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I used to work at a chocolate shop and we’d have couples come in all the time for favours. Usually they’d buy little chocolate hearts. One milk, one dark chocolate for each guest. In a little cello bag. There, done. If you don’t want favours, don’t do it. Most people won’t even notice.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No favors here!  They are getting free beer and wine, I think that is good enough!  I am however making all the kids activity bags with things they can do in them so they don’t get bored.

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