Post # 1
Last night FH and I were tallying up how much we already spent on the wedding plus what else we needed to spend on. It’s looking like itll come out to about $12,500 and we were hoping to be under $10,000. Weve already cut alot of costs down. Our guest list went from 80 down to 36. Our reception will be at our house instead of renting a venue, and we only have a wedding party of a Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man. My Future Mother-In-Law is doing the bouquets and a family friend is shipping in flowers as a wedding present because shes a florist.
This is where all the money went.
Photography was important and that came out to $5000 including 2 photographers, and 2 videographers. We really like the lead photographer, because he has promised to take us to a few amazing backdrops for our money shots.
Catering came out to $2300. We are haivng an inhouse chef, two amazing entres lots af great side dishes, a server, and a clean up crew.
Decorations also costs $1000. It was hard to find the paper lanterns and umbrellas I envisioned and had to be ordered online. Plus all the trips to Micheals really adds up alot!!
Dress $800, Grooms Suit $800
Tables and chairs $500
Wedding bands together $534
Thoes are the major expenses. It’s not hard to see how even the littlest things add up. Individually everything seems totally justified but looking at the total number is scary!
What did you spend the most on the what did you piorotize? Were there any regrets later about what you wished you spent less on?
Post # 2
littlepinkring: I think you are right to prioritize photography. I think you could DEF have saved on decorations. 1000 dollars? Seems really high especially for a 36 person wedding ( not a lot of tables ect) and the grooms suit also sound steep ( maybe he could rent and save a few hundred dollars)
Otherwise, weddings man! They add up! I wouldnt cut catering costs personally as people will remember your food ( your at 63 dollars a head which isn’t awful) but you probably could.
Post # 3
Honestly, I think paying $5,000 for 2 photographers and 2 videographers for a wedding of 36 guests is incredibly high, and not an amount I would have considered paying (and I got married in downtown DC). The rest of your costs seem reasonable.
We spent the most on food, because that’s what guests really care about. After that, we spent the 2nd most on photography, since that’s all you really have after the wedding. I don’t regret any of my costs.
Post # 4
Yea the decorations got out of hand but becuse we were having it at our house we wanted to have stuff outside, hanging from trees… ect. Also we live in Alaska so shipping costs were high too.
His suit could have definitly been cheaper but I wasnt there and he actually got another free suit out of it kinda deal but I didnt wana berate his choises espically since my dress was the same amount. Didnt want to be hypocritical.
On the good news, originaly when I was thinking about wedding shirtly afer we got engaged I was estimating $25,000! so I feel great that it was cheaper then I originally budgeed but its still alot of money! GAH! It makes my head spin.
Post # 5
Your photographer cost is crazy high. Just think, that is almost HALF of your budget. I get it, you want great pictures…but I got great pictures with two photographers and paid $2000. I’ll bet you could find someone for a lot cheaper and just as good.
Post # 6
The bulk of my cost are for the venue and food, followed by photography/video then DJ, entertainment and lighting. I made a few sacrafices such as: I cut my dress and attire budget in half, Im DIYing -STD, Invites, Favors, Floral, Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts, and all Decor. Im going a nontraditional route with the cake to save $.
Post # 7
Its not the photography that costs the most but the videos.. Unfortunatly basic videos already come in at min 3000. I struggled with the reality of that but I had a whole other thread asking other bees what to expect for videos and pictures. Videos are very important to us. We are getting a 30 min clip and a edited short 5 min clip of everything. THey will be followin us for 9 hours in the day.
Lokie85: I am also DIYing everything (except the lanterns and umbrellas ut that was a must) , invites, favours, Save-The-Date Cards… but all that costs materials and my costs went up.
LOL i guess there were many ways I could have saved in hinesight but hey, its my first wedding 😉 I just hope that everything will be as perfect as possible and worth it!
Post # 8
We spent the most on food. That was the most important thing to us, aside from the venue. It just so happens that the venue fees weren’t all that expensive. It was only like $1300.00 for the venue. We had a small wedding. It was a daytime, brunch affair. We ended up paying for 70ish people, and I think our expense for food was about $4000.00. Honestly, its been a almost a year and I don’t quite remember that figure, so give or take a few hundred. Truth be told, I don’t really feel like we splurged all that much on food, we just wanted to provide a decent meal, and we did. Everything else was cheaper though, and we didn’t care nearly as much about other stuff. Our photography was around $1500.00. I think we payed around $250.00 for the dj, and the same for the officiant. My makeup only costed about $50.00 or $60.00. I got my dress under budget for just under $300.00. (I think I made a post previously with an account of everying.)
In total we spent $12,000 on the wedding, which was exactly on budget. We couldn’t afford to go over, because that would cut into our honeymoon money, and the honeymoon right after was extremely important to us. We only had $3000.00 to spend on the honeymoon, so we needed to keep the wedding on budget.
Post # 9
I just looked at what we still have left to buy too. I thought we were in a good place, but with two months to go there still a lot to get done!
catering is going to be our biggest charge, about half our Budget. rentals for table and chairs were more than I thought and we have a band playing for the ceremony and cocktail hour.
we got a deal with a super great photographer for our area, just under 2k so that stretched our photo budget. my younger brother is going to film the ceremony and walk around with a video camera XD no budget for a videographer but I prefer the feel of home videos anyway.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t beat yourself up too much. Obv people are advising on money youve already spent so realistically, not much you can do. Just think: if you’d compromised on your photog/video team, and you ended up w sub par pics/video after all was said and done, would you be able to have another wedding? Nope! You’re stuck! Makes sense to pay extra to ensure you’re gonna be happy. I thought we were doing great on the wedding and I even upgraded our photo video team. I put everything in excel and realized we’re already over $17,000. Yikes!! That being said, we are making sure we stick to our savings plan and will have the wedding paid for in full before we get married. That’s kind of all you can do tho…plan for the best, spend what you can, and rest assured that you’ll have the best day ever 🙂
Post # 11
One week out, and little costs are still popping up. But were also picking up stuff for our honeymoon too, so it’s a mixed bag. It’ll be okay, when all is said and done, you won’t have any regrets!
Post # 12
littlepinkring: It’s so true that when you look at all the numbers together it’s a little overwhelming!
I’m pretty happy with the way way we spent money. We had a clear idea of waht matterd to us and what didn’t. My general tendancy is to be a little too cheap, but I think I overcame that and added in a few memorable extras. I did spend an insane amount on photography…but I think it was worth it. The pics are great.