Post # 1
Hello Bees! 🙂
At any on your weddings have you had your family cook all the food for the reception?
what was your experience like? was it worth the savings of the money?
We are considering doing a mexican food buffet and both of our families can cook really well! I just dont want the people closest to us stress over making sure everything is cooked and ready to go. They have offered and said it wouldnt be a problem, just thought I’d get some input.
Post # 3
First of all, call me crazy but I love this idea and I don’t see anything wrong with it. I know this is a taboo thing for some people. We are doing something similar at our wedding and so far everyone that we have discussed this with is excited and have even requested that they be able to bring whatever their signature dish may be. It will cut costs but only if you don’t go too gung-ho. (If I had a Mexican buffet I would totally go overboard! lol)
I will caution that doing most of the cooking yourself is exhausting and is a bit of a distraction so make sure that your family is 100% willing to do this and follow thru so it doesn’t wind up landing on you at the last minute! 🙂
Post # 4
I think if you have them cook it, you might have someone else oversea the buffet and help serve and clear, that way they can enjoy your wedding too. There may be some college kids who would be willing to do it for a few extra bucks. It’s worth looking in to.
Post # 5
We’re doing this too and I definitely don’t think it’s crazy, as long as everyone on your “food team” is 100% willingly behind the operation.
You do need to take into consideration things like food safety…make sure you have an adequate way to keep hot food hot and cold food cold (both during transportation and on the day of while it’s being served or sitting on the buffet), and keep everything covered until it’s ready to be eaten so that flies and dust will stay off it. Also consider cross-contamination with common allergens — for example, if you make green beans almondine, don’t then use the same spoon to stir your pasta salad, because someone who is allergic to almonds might be eating that and they could have a reaction!
Just make sure you have enough food to feed everyone plentifully — you can google “how to feed [#] people” and find lots of websites with amounts you’ll need of common foods — pasta noodles, dressing, casseroles, cooked veggies, rice, etc. etc.
Our budget for food is roughly $500 and I am LOVING the savings! I definitely think the added stress is worth it, and so does everyone on my food team. It’s a big undertaking but I think it will be awesome. Good luck on yours!
Post # 6
@SandyThePoet: That is a great idea! Never would have thought about using college kids! LOL We have a University here… anybody need to borrow a few students? lol
Post # 7
Thank You all for your comments and suggestions! the savings definitely seem worth it 🙂
Post # 8
My mom and stepdad did this for my sister’s wedding. He has worked as a chef in a country club for many years. As he had a ton of experience he thought it would be well worth the savings. He decided afterward that he would never do it again. He worked so hard beforehand that he was to tired to enjoy the wedding and little last minute things kept popping up that needed his attention. We barely saw him. He said in the country club he had a staff who knew what they are doing. The people who volunteered to help all knew how to cook but had no idea how to work as a team. It was super stressful to him.
On the other hand my best friend’s family always does weddings, funerals, and family gatherings this way. They do an amazing job, have a blast at it and work well together as a team. I really think that it can work and work well but maybe a dress rehearsal is needed?
Post # 9
I wish we could! We are having a cocktail reception with finger foods, and we aren’t allowed to bring in food. I want a simple fun gathering, and would LOVE to have my Dad’s meatballs and my Aunts homeade tomales… Instead of paying a 10 million % markup on the cold apps we can afford. I say go for it!! Everyone loves homeade food, especially since you know if was made with love!
Post # 10
Keep hot food above 70 degrees and cold food under forty. That will keep you in line with the current food safety standards. =)
Post # 11
My aunt is cooking our food, we’re having cuban cuisine. Yum! But we hired someone to provide china and servers and a bartender… you should look into that so that family can also enjoy the wedding.