Post # 31
If a Friday is important to you, choose that date. However, be gracious about guests who can’t make it. In these threads I see a lot of “People who REALLY care/matter will make it no matter what!” sentiment thrown around, and that’s just not always true. For instance, I recently started a new position where I can’t take any non-holiday Fridays off for a *year.* Sound crazy? Maybe. But it means that even if my best friend in the universe were getting married on a Friday afternoon, I’d be SOL. So pick the date that means the most to you, but also be kind and understanding if/when your numbers aren’t quite what you expected.
Post # 32
I had a Friday wedding because we wanted to get married relatively soon after our engagement, and most places were booked on Saturday. We had exactly 100 guests come and invited 115. The people that did not come wouldn’t have come regardless of the day of the week. We had people coming from all over the country. No one said anything to me about it being an inconvenience, and if they had the gall to tell me that MY wedding was an inconvienience to THEM, well they need to reavaluate what a wedding is about! Good luck with whatever you decide!
Post # 33
We are having our wedding on a Friday due to costs….
So far we have gotten four people that have declined the wedding. We are still waiting for some of our RSVP to come back, but based off of word of mouth we aren’t expecting to many more declines.
Post # 34
coloradohiker88 : I completely agree with this. I too hate when people say that those that really want to come will.
I personally dislike Friday weddings but I prefer them over other weekday weddings. I will always think Saturday weddings are the most convenient for the majority of people.
OP, you know your guests. If a lot of them work weekends that a Friday wedding might work better. You have to decide whether the date is more important than the people that can come. I am not sentimental with dates at all so the choice would be easy for me – have it when it’s more convenient for my guests.
Post # 35
If it were me, I would do the Friday. I wish our anniversary fell more conveniently for that kind of thing! It will be so special to keep your dating anniversary / proposal date / wedding anniversary all the same! Everyone will come and it will be fine. Perhaps consider having the wedding in the evening followed by a cocktail style reception?? Make sure there is lots of food though haha.
Post # 36
if the date really means something to you, then i say definitely do it on a friday! weddings are usually cheaper being on a friday anyways. as long as you start the wedding late afternoon, around 4 or 5, people should be able to make it. and sending your save the dates and invites out with plenty of notice should give people ample time to make arrangements (take time off work, etc.)
Post # 37
cookiez : Saturday is always better for guests, assuming you don’t work in the event planning industry or some other industry where that’s a prime work day. There’s a reason Friday weddings are usually cheaper. That being said, if the date is extremely important to you, have it on a Friday but anticipate that you’ll get more declines than you would have for a Saturday wedding.
Post # 38
FWIW, I know that the proposal date is special to you, but if you pick the Saturday, then that date will be special too 🙂
You will miss out on sharing the day with certain people if you pick Friday… and that would trump the “specialness of the date” factor for me.
Post # 39
You need to determine what is more important: the date or the likeliness of people accepting the invite.
I think it also will depend on the time on Monday. 4:00 ceremony? I might not make it if we’re only acquaintances. 7:00 ceremony, yeah, I’ll probably make it.
Post # 40
cookiez : My wedding was on a friday and out of 150 people invited, 130 showed up.
Post # 41
The date you get married will be special – you are getting MARRIED that day. It could be a random day, it will still be special because of the wedding.
That said, I’d probably just do the saturday if you want more people to show up. There are a lot of perks to a Friday wedding, however low guest count is def something to think about.
Post # 42
We’re doing Friday because of cost and the date range we wanted (we didn’t need a specific date but didn’t want to wait more than a year). No one has indicated it’s a problem yet. When I apologetically mention its a Friday everyone is like “no problem”. I’m sure we’ll lose some but I think we’ll wind up pretty good. Some of the venues we visited were like “I know people don’t want Friday weddings but we have them every week and they’re great”. We do have a lot of locals but will have travelers too.
We are starting late though, because it’s Friday. 6pm call time, ceremony will be a little later.
Post # 43
cookiez : I attended my first Friday wedding just a few weeks ago and while it was a little difficult to get there in time because of work, it really was no different than a Saturday wedding! If anything, it was better because they held it in the evening so everything was long and drawn out. If the date is special to you, I’d say keep the date! I wish our wedding date was something meaningful to us.
Post # 44
- Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion
How about signing the marriage certificate the night before so your legal date will be the day you want but people willstill get to go to a Saturday wedding?
Post # 45
cookiez : Potential wedding date twin 🙂 We are getting married on 3/31 of 2017. We decided to have our ceremony begin at 6:30pm after checking the sunset time (7:17pm – lol super specific). Most of our guests are traveling, but for the locals attending, this gives them enough time to head home and change or grab a snack without having to take a whole day or even a half day depending on how far they live from the venue. If you opt for a Friday wedding, I would consider a late start.
Keep in mind the Saturday will fall on April 1 (April Fool’s day) and while we thought about a Saturday wedding, my Fiance didn’t like the idea of getting married on 4/1. So far we have not seen less interest in our wedding because of it being a Friday. A lot of our guests are actually making a weekend out of it. This of course will vary depending on your guest list and crowd and is purely anecdotal. YMMV