Post # 1
I always thought I would be so calm. We had a two year engagement so I could carefully plan everything out and I thought I would be so calm as the wedding got closer, but now I am going crazy.
Now we are almost a month a way and I have 100 last minute things to do, our house still isn’t ready, we are at each other’s throats, and I feel like I am walking around with permanent hives about to have an anxiety attack at any minute.
Anyone else having extreme anxiety? Any tips to get through this?
Post # 3
I would keep thinking about how wonderful it would be when everything was done!
I also kept meticulous lists, and worked on one item at a time, finished it, crossed it off the list and moved on. It allowed me to SEE progress, which I think helped me to feel better that things were going to get done.
Also, make sure to take time for yourself. Even if it’s just 15 minutes for a glass of wine, or a nice soak in the bath, or reading a magazine… sometime to step away from the wedding AND the house & let you focus on you! Do your hair, paint your toenails, give yourself a pedicure… something!
Post # 4
@Ella1978- I am trying to remind myself that I will have an amazing wedding, will go to Fiji for two weeks, and will come back to a newly remodeled home. I just feel guilty whenever I take a minute to myself. I sit there and think of the 100 other things I have to do.
Post # 5
Yup, it’s hard, but you have to let it go, at least for a few minutes. Shoot the week before my wedding, I would lay there in bed for an hour or two just thinking of all the things that were going on, what I had to do. I’d get up 5 times to look for something, or write something down.
The day before my mother came over to pick up our cookies (we made cookies for favors, and because she is retired, she volunteered to stuff the bags).. well the night before she wsa coming to pick them up, I realized that I didn’t know where the bags were! I jumped out of bed – It was about 1130 pm (I try to go to bed at 930 – get up at 5…) My husband and I were tearing the house apart to try to find these bags…
But what kept me chill was taking a half hour walk with my dad in the evening. He was living with us and recovering from heart surgery. We’d talk about all kinds of things, and it was a few minutes for me to get out of the house and calm down a bit.
We had friends over for a little cookout one evening the week before. Just to take that night off, have some food and a couple drinks – I was totally refreshed and ready to go the following day.
It’s hard to detach, but you have to for your own sanity!!!
Post # 6
Same here! I’m getting hives on my face and chest and I’ve never had them before. It’s awesome. I try to turn off the “wedding planning” mindset and just be normal but I’m constantly thinking/planning/stressing/obsessing. At this point I’m ready to just have it over and done with!
Post # 7
I’m right there with you- we have less than three weeks!! What’s helping me is making a list of everything I have to do and choosing a few tasks to get done each day- so maybe do a craft one day and call three vendors the next- whatever you have to do to pace yourself. That way you feel productive and like every thing is under control.
Post # 8
Thank god I’m not the only one. FH and I have been fighting, I can’t sleep, my stomach is in knots. I have 2 weeks and still so much to do.
Thanks for posting this and thanks for the great advice ladies!
Post # 9
oh gosh, im so glad i found the emo board on wedding bee!! ive been on it all day!! i feel exactly like everyone elses posts here, but i still have 3 months to go!!! i have added stress of school though..i think thats contributing alot. ive enlisted the help of my BMs for little tasks, and i keep meticulous to do list..however that usally helps me but its not helping this time. when i get home i turn into a vegatative state and get nothing done (or preoccupied like i had to buy a new laptop last week mine broke and for school needed something asap took two of my nights to get everything transferred over, ugh.) i still dont have a hairstylist ughhh. i really feel like at this point i should have eloped, haha :oP trying to keep humor in this and think back to when we first got engaged how i told myself i was NOT going to become a stressed bride, and here i am :o(
Post # 10
Our wedding is less than 2 weeks away and in the past week I have started getting really more anxious. We don’t actually have that much left to do, but I just hope everything works out–with the band, and the photographer (both have been acting flaky), and all of our out of town guests, and I just hope everyone gets along, and we still have to write our vows and pick a 1st song and learn how to dance….ug, I guess we do have a lot left to do!
The past few days I have been having trouble breathing, I don’t know what’s up with that! My fiance says it’s the wedding stress but I don’t even know, I am almost ready for the day to get here but also it’s just coming up so soon! Aaah!