Post # 1
Has anyone seen this article yet?
I recently gave my best friend an item off her registry and $100 cash as her wedding gift, so I’m surprised $100 wasn’t acceptable to this bride!
What is the worst behavior you’ve seen after giving a gift?
Did you receive a gift that you didn’t feel was neccesarily appropriate from a certain relative?
Do you agree with how the bride reacted?
Post # 3
We had quiet a few people come to our wedding completely empty handed — no card or anything — and only a few couples gave us anything close to $100, so we would have been thrilled to get $100.
Post # 5
I’d be happy with nothing, although gifts are appreciated. I can’t imagine anyone but a family member giving me more than $25….
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
That article infuriates me. It’s disgusting that anyone raised their daughter in a way to think it’s acceptable to write a note like that, let alone be upset at ALL about a monetary gift. I think we got maybe 3 or 4 gifts that were worth more than $100, and more than 1/3 of our guests didn’t bring anything. The average gift seemed to be $50 for a family of 4. REGARDLESS. It’s a GIFT, it’s a sweet thought, it’s not mandatory. EVER. Pay for the wedding you can afford, it’s not up to the guests to pay for your stupid party!
Post # 7
That bride’s message was unbelievable, but it’s more disturbing that I have seen that trend developing. A lot of bride-to-bes think their guests are going to reimburse them for the cost of the wedding. Most people have heard the guideline to cover your plate, but it’s not a rule and certainly should not be an expectation! I think $100 is pretty average, and if a bride decides to host some extravaganza then they need to be prepared to foot the bill. A gift is a gift, and the thought and effort should be appreciated no matter how small.
Post # 8
I didn’t vote in the poll. My answer is something along the lines of, “Whatever is found to be appropriate for/by the gift giver.” Only the gift givers can know their financial situation, emotional tie to the couple, etc, so I don’t want to set some arbitrary line.
Post # 9
Oh and about the bridezilla in the article…what a huge bitch. Seriously, people are losing their minds these days when it comes to weddings. The TLC and Bravo shows out there aren’t exactly helping matters either.
Post # 10
That was disgusting. But it should be noted that the “appropriate” gift seems to vary by region. Doesn’t make expectations of a gift any more defendable, but is a variable in the results of this poll.
Post # 11
@HVbride: I don’t really get the “cover your plate” thing. I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding where I actually knew how much my plate cost other than at my own.
Post # 12
I think it depends wedding to wedding. Although I dont believe in “cover your plate” I do think, when it is possible given the givers budget, to give according to the formality of the wedding. Backyard affair? I’ll give $50 for both of us. Black tie? More like $250 or so.
Post # 13
That’s ridiculous and disgusting. To some people $100 is a lot of money and you should never respond to someone like that for giving you a gift.
Post # 14
Holy crap, if it were a check, you’d bet your ass I’d put a stop payment on that
Post # 15
@HisMoon: < I completely agree with this. I basically told people I didn’t care what they did/ didn’t give us, I just wanted them there to help celebrate our wedding.
I’d prefer people to have a good time rather think feel bad about not being able to afford a gift.
Post # 16
This is exactly why I find the whole cover your plate trend ridiculous–because classless idiots like her expect it and go so far as to complain that they weren’t gifted enough. I would slap that bitch if it was me who got the message.