Post # 1
I got married a few years ago and two siblings (family friends) attended our wedding. Sibling A attended as a couple and gave us a $150 gift. Sibling B attended alone and gave us a $100 gift. Sibling A got married the same year but just invited immediate family and did not have a big wedding. They said they were going to eventually have a party so I did not send a gift, and waited for the invite. A few years have passed and they never had the party. Now sibling B is getting married, but I cannot attend the wedding. I am going to send a gift to the newlyweds (Sibling B and spouse), but will also send a separate belated gift to sibling A and his spouse. How much should I give? I was thinking $150 for each couple. Please let me know what you think.
(FYI we live in NY and normally give a $250-$300 wedding gift when attending.)
Post # 2
If I wasn’t invited to a wedding than I would only give a congratulations card and a small token gift and I would do it at the time of the wedding. So personally because of the circumstances I wouldn’t do anything for that cousin now.
If someone invited me to their wedding and I wanted to give a gift than I would give below my usual gift amount. Normally I give $250-$300 too and I would probably give $100 since it’s a nice round number however, I feel I would be more inclined to decline with an actual gift rather than money and might organise a couples massage voucher or dinner voucher instead depending on the couple
Post # 3
I think gifts should depend more on your financial situation than on what you were gifted in the past.
that said, knowing only the info provided and doing a purely mathematical reasoning (I.e. Not considering the true meaning of a gift, etc…) I’d say $100 per couple is plenty.. Neither had to host you as a guest, after all.
Post # 4
I think $150 per couple would be great because they are your siblings. When I attend weddings, I give $100-200. When I don’t attend, I send $50. However, when it was my sister’s wedding, I gave her $800 and my then boyfriend (now fiancé) gave $300. Depends on how close you are with them.
Post # 5
misschan : they’re not her siblings, they’re family friends. They are related to each other