(Closed) Wedding gift etiquette for couple who didn't get you anything?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

If you aren’t going, I wouldn’t send a gift or a card unless they’re very close friends (which they obviously aren’t considering how they treated you at your wedding).  

Post # 17
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316 posts
Helper bee

I would definitely send a card and a letter.  It would just be in my nature to and I wouldn’t feel right if I didn’t.  As far as a gift goes, it would depend on just how good of a friend this person is.  If it were my bestfriend, I would definitely send a gift.  If not, I probably would not send a gift.  Especially being overseas, that could be quite expensive.  Besides, you could consider paying for the two unexpected guests at your wedding a gift to her 😉

Post # 18
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318 posts
Helper bee

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asianbarbie:  I would probably go the bigger person route and send a card and gift card as PPs suggested, if you are going or are close. If not, you don’t need to do so. 

But it doesn’t matter re whether or not they brought a gift in making the decision. To be honest, I would not know because I never made a list of who did or did not get me a gift for the wedding (or any other event). I just don’t keep score/track of those things and I really only care about people sharing the event with me — gifts are an added bonus. 

Post # 19
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231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

No gift. No card.  How rude.  They’ll realize their rudeness after their own wedding.  Hopefully. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee

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asianbarbie:  As did I, I just didn’t compare the thank you note list to the guest list to see who didn’t bring a gift at all. Perhaps depending on the size of the wedding it’s impossible not to notice though.

In any event, I hope I didn’t offend you personally that wasn’t my goal. I was aiming for a general comment as I see related posts, not exactly like this one but more about how much one person spent vs. another, so I mentioned that last part in response to the general concept of keeping track that I see on the boards at times. 

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