Post # 1
One of my good friends is getting married at a very chill beach wedding and has insisted on no gifts since most of her friends (including dh and me) will need to travel cross country to the wedding. Of course, I naturally want to get her a gift (probably something I will mail as the wedding is a beach destination wedding). She’s a very original type person who isn’t materialistic so want to get something unique. She and her soon to be husband are both into cooking and anything culinary. They currently live in Boston and both love to travel. Need some help generating ideas. I don’t want to just get them a blender or Le Crueset. Any thoughts?
So far I have:
– a cooking class together
– an overnight at a local BnB they can use whenever
– a spa package
– couples Thai yoga massage class (did this with Darling Husband and honestly it’s the gift that keeps on giving back)
Post # 3
Maybe mail a check so you don’t have to worry about carrying cash and the couple doesn’t have to worry about going over the customs limit if the wedding is abroad
Everyone wants cash
Your gifts sound super thoughtful though! I’d take any of them!
Post # 4
browneyedgirl24 : cinnarum : thanks yeah was thinking cash but wanted to be “creative” since she was creative with my gift – – I had a registry but she got me something made by an artist friend. But everyone does love cash and I know how grateful I was for it at our wedding. So next question, what’s a good amount? Lol
Post # 6
goldenbrown : If you don’t want to give cash then maybe a really high quality knife. I suggest an 8″ Damascus Shun Classic Western Chef knife or a Wusthof Ikon 3 piece or a small set of German Henkels. Depends on your budget of course.
We got a couple of very good knives given to us and have use them constantly over the years. Serious cooks do appreciate good equipment.
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Post # 7
Nooooooooo don’t give knives! They aren’t a good gift as they represent severing ties. They may not be as superstitious as my family, but just in case. desiderata :
Post # 8
I’d do the cooking class. I think that sounds like a nice idea. goldenbrown :
Post # 9
My default wedding gift if there is no registry and I don’t want to give cash is a picnic hamper. A proper fancy one with high quality crockery and cutlery, with an engraved personalied tag on it with their wedding date and a little message.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
I might be the only one, but if the bride is insisting on no gifts, it might be a good idea to abide by that? If you’re really wanting to give something thought, then +1 for cash. If it were me and I purposely didn’t create a registry, then I would not want a bunch of stuff from people that I didn’t ask for. I really hate clutter and I REALLY hate getting gifts that people felt obligated to give but don’t have much meaning. I can’t tell you how much dumb, monogrammed shit I’ve gotten for our wedding and we’re not even married yet. I’m sure she will accept anything graciously, but perhaps that’s just another perspective to keep in mind.
Post # 11
hickoryhills : Yeah I know she insisted on no gifts but I don’t know if that’s because she really means it or didn’t have time to create a registry. I remember months ago her mentioning that she was going to create a wedding webiste and registry and all that. Then it didn’t happen.
Post # 12
hickoryhills : I agree with this.
It’s so easy to create a registry these days that if she didn’t do it, I’d assume she really doesn’t want physical things. (And many/most online registries also allow you to register for experiences like a class, photo session, etc., too, so again if they didn’t ask for it I wouldn’t assume they necessarily want it.)
I know cash might not be considered the most thoughtful or original, but when people don’t have registries, they are often hoping for cash. That’s not to say you’re obligated to give cash (or anything technically), but literally no one is going to open a card with a check and be disappointed they didn’t get a “creative” gift. And perhaps they are at the point in their lives when a little cash would truly be the most appreciated thing for starting their life together.
Post # 13
Ha Ha! I remember that superstition!
Same as not walking under a ladder or throwing salt over your shoulder. My grandmother insisted on taping a penny to the package when giving knives so as not cleave the friendship.
I assure I have had friends to whom we have given knives ( coin attached) and we are still friends many years later!
Post # 15
Twizbe : if they are superstitious they can just send her a penny!
goldenbrown : I love the cooking class idea or you could also send a little basket with some penzey’s spices (delicious and local to Boston but you can order online). Basically if they don’t want stuff get them consumable stuff or an experience. For our wedding I was gifted a box of wine with tags on each one that were for certain “firsts”. One was for after our first fight, our first anniversary, our first dinner party, our first baby, etc, etc and I loved it!