(Closed) Wedding gift question

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
13289 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The shower and the wedding are two separate events that necessitates two separate gifts.  I typically just write a check for the wedding. 

Post # 5
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We do usually $125 per person who is at the wedding…so at least $250 for me and Fiance combined…..

But you should give whatever you’re comfortable with….

Post # 6
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ditto with what PP said about giving what is comfortable for you.

FWIW, I personally do a shower gift off the registry (a decorative/fun item – usually $50-70) and another registry gift/cash for the wedding (from both Fiance and me – approximately $200).

Some bees I’ve spoken to said they do one large gift for the shower though and none for the wedding. Perhaps it is a geographical/cultural thing?

I also wouldn’t worry about what it’s “appropriate” necessarily. It’s really the thought that counts. We have people that we know are in financial difficulties and they are gifting us (based on the Thank You Manager anyway) a $50 gift. We have others that are comfortable and they are doing $200+.

Post # 8
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I always do a mid-size gift for the shower (about $50) and a check for the wedding ($200 for both of us) unless I know there is a big ticket registry item she wants.

Post # 9
16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I tend to give a gift for both. In terms of how much, just spend what you can afford. It’s a gift, and they’ll be grateful.

Post # 11
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yeah, just give what you can for the wedding gift.  I mean, your shower gift was generous and I’m sure very much appreciated!  🙂  So, if I were you I’d either get a gift off the registry or just give cash.  Cash/check would be easiest 🙂 and probably just as appreciated if they’re jetting off for the honeymoon

Post # 12
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

You’re technically suppose to give a gift for both since the bridal shower is separate from the wedding. 

Post # 13
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Give what you can and what you can afford.  i don’t expect people to get me a shower gift AND a wedding gift as well. Besides $125 for a gift is very generous.  If you don’t want to show up empty handed, a nice card will suffice.

Post # 14
9482 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Gift for the shower; money in the card for wedding.

Post # 15
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Where I live, if you gave a shower gift, you aren’t expected to give a wedding gift. 

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