Wedding Gift what is my obligation

posted 7 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
6910 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

If you won’t go then there’s no need to give a gift. You’re never really obligated to give a gift anyway.

Post # 3
3703 posts
Sugar bee


Post # 4
715 posts
Busy bee

What’s your relationship like with the parents? My parents invited a few people to my wedding that they are very close to, but that I barely know. If you’re not close with them either they may be inviting you either because they like you or because they know you’re close by and will hear the party so may as well pop by. If you’re not planning on going anyway then you don’t need to get them a gift either way, but if you don’t know the son you definitely wouldn’t be expected to splurge on a big gift. I completely forgot that the people i don’t really know might get me one and certainly would not expect it! 

Also I’ve heard that wedding gifts are not compulsory, only shower gifts are expected while wedding gifts are common and appreciated but not mandatory. I doubt they’re even expected in this situation since it’s not actually the wedding that you’re invited to and it’s informal enough to be done via facebook invite. 

Post # 5
45536 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is no obligation to send a gift. You could choose to send a card with your best wishes.

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