(Closed) Wedding Gifts…

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: They didn't give a card or gift at your reception. It's now their turn, what do you gift?


    Card and no money

    Whatever I normally would gift a couple (i.e. $100)

    a 'cheap' gift (something I wouldn't normally give.. a couple towels and $20)

  • Post # 3
    90 posts
    Worker bee

    I think it depends on who the individual is.  I wouldn’t get them nothing, but maybe I’d spend less.  If I thought there could be a reason for the lack of gift or card, I might ignore it altogether and spend what I typically would

    Post # 4
    2051 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think it depends on the couple’s situation… if I know they are strapped for cash, I’d still give my normal gift (but it does suck they didn’t even get you a card!!). If they were openly flaunting wealth, i’d probably still get them a gift, but a lot less than I normally give.

    Post # 5
    541 posts
    Busy bee

    It depends. Did they give you a gift for any other wedding related event like and engagement party or a shower? It’s pretty common where I live for people to give a shower gift and not a wedding gift.

    Are they significantly younger than you? Maybe they just didn’t understand gifting for weddings. Also if it was the guy of the couple who was the primary person invited, with the girl being his guest, yeah, men are clueless too. My FH is 100% clueless on anything etiquette or wedding related. He has literally told me, “oh yeah, we have to be at Bob and jenny’s wedding at 5:30 today,” um who? Ya think you might have mentioned this 6 weeks ago.

    If you are friends with them,in the same peer group, age group, social group, income group? If those factors are all the same, I’d just go with the cheaper gift idea.

    Post # 6
    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We had 17 people not give us a gift or card at our wedding. If/when those folks get married, we’ll still get them a gift, just as we would anyone else. Two wrongs don’t make a right and I don’t believe in being spiteful to friends.

    Post # 7
    1397 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @tampalove35:  Good question. I’m not sure about this. He has 3 siblings, and NONE of them got us so much as a card. I was pretty hurt and insulted by that, especially since they’re all making decent money now and spending lots of it. I used to do nice things for his siblings, but because of several incidents, I now don’t.  I don’t think I’d ever give them a gift, and the lack of a wedding gift/card is a contributing factor, but not the only reason.

    Other people who didn’t get us gifts… meh. Sure, it’s sort of rude, IMO, but if they got married and we were invited, I’d show up with a card and gift.

    Post # 9
    2947 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    I always try to be bigger person which can be hard!

    Id bring a small gift ($50) a and card.

    I could never attend a wedding without bringing a gift.

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