(Closed) wedding gifts and registries question

posted 6 years ago in New York City
Post # 3
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well personally I’d give money. I can take the hint. 🙂

But aunts and cousins and grandmothers are gonna tend to want to buy you something. Sometimes it doesn’t even matter if you have a registry. If Aunt Mary has her heart set on buying you sheets and she doesn’t see sheets on your registry (because you already have 3 sets of ones you love) she’ll just buy you her favorite sheets in a color she thinks you’ll like and include no gift reciept or anything. Because she thinks every young coupe needs to start life with a good set of sheets.

It’s super fun.

Post # 4
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

In most cases, we buy off the registry unless we know without a doubt that the couple would enjoy a specific non-registry item. If the registry is all bought up then we get creative. I don’t like giving cash but don’t mind giving gift cards, and tend to give travel-related gift cards, either airline or hotel, rather than shopping related.  Everyone wants to get away for a weekend, so a United gift card would not go to waste, but I can’t say the same thing for a shopping gift card.

Post # 6
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@jd51:  Honestly, I’m not sure there’s a way to stop the Aunt Marys.


Post # 7
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@jd51:  i generally buy off the registry for pre-wedding events (showers, engagement parties, etc), but give a check for the actual wedding.  From my experience, in the NYC area, I think people tend to give checks for weddings, but there’s always the exception.  have you thought about doing a honey fund?

Post # 8
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have a hard time giving cash to my friends (just seems weird to me), so I tend to go with a gift card to the store where they registered.  Hot tip if you’re considering adding to your registry, but would prefer cash: Bed Bath & Beyond lets you return gifts for cash. 

Post # 9
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve never encountered a registry that was completely bought out. We even went to a wedding with 300+ guests and the bride and groom already lived together and they only registered at Macy’s. We had a mutual friend wait until a few days before to buy her gift and there were still items on there in several price points. In this instance, I would just register for what you want and then keep a close eye on it, particularly when it is close to your wedding date, and just add to it if necessary. I do not advocate scanning and registering for stuff just to have stuff. That’s just more stuff for you to store or return. I find the Aunt Mary(s) of the world shop earlier anyway so when they do, I’m pretty sure they will still find stuff to buy. It’s usually the younger folks that wait until the last minute and many that I know are fine with giving cash, especially single men and if they know you prefer cash.

There will also be Aunt Marys that choose to go rogue and not follow your registry at all thinking that 1) her taste is better than yours or 2) that she got a killer deal on something and it is just the thing. We know of older retired couples that will buy several pots and pans sets when it is on sale at Macy’s and stock up on them anticipating weddings in the future.

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